I caught my hubby on adult friend finder....says he uses it for the cams...he can watch women masturbate and get himself off...I consider this cheating. Do U???
2007-03-10 01:12:58 · 25 answers · asked by nh_lady_2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a married man and I consider it cheating.
2007-03-10 02:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by penhead72 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Though there is a grey area for me. My husband and I watch porn together on occassion and he watches it once in a while when I am not home and he needs to "release so tension." Do I mind that? No. The reason I don't mind that is because the women aren't live real people they are paid "actors" so there isn't a possibility of him hooking up to cheat. I define what your husband as doing as pretty much infedelity because he is having an intimate experience with a real live person.
2007-03-10 03:01:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES...YES...YES!!!!!!!
I would look for another hubby if I were you!!
Sounds like he needs other women for his enjoyment, not just you! Any man who needs th arousal of another woman other than his wife is cheating. It is called - cybersex- for a reason.
It is just a way of cheating without saying you actually touched someone else (other than yourself). Plus, he sounds creepy. I had a friend who had the same issue.. I GUARANTEE he is cheating physically too. It always is the case. It moves from the computer to real life so fast it will make you head spin. And do not believe him! they lie to protect themselves. I say run! get out while you can ... this dude is messed up!
2007-03-10 01:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by jamocha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
adult friend finder is a sex and swingers site.... the women on cam are not doing this for free....he has to be a member, and yes that is absolutely cheating....watching a porn to get off is one thing, but watching live cam is totally disrespecting you, your husband is a pig
2007-03-10 07:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by raffi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I kinda would consider it cheating emotionally and it would hurt but I think its the innate nature of most men to be sexually charged so maybe look on the bright side that he is getting off by watching camshows and not doing it with real women?
2007-03-10 01:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by cookiedough 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would think that this is not cheeting if the women are not watching him masterbate as he watches them masterbate. Otherwise it is like masterbating to a pornographic magazine or movie. Cheating is not masterbating but being in a relationship with another woman so if they are masterbating together than it is a relationship but if he is just watching some porno actress/person masterbating on camera to millions of other perverts then it is just pornography. I do think he has a problem because he was you and I would rather have sex with a real person than masterbate. You definately want to talk to him and possibly get counseling. The questions is not if he is cheating but why is he looking in other directions to satisfy himself when he has you. You two need to talk and see if there is a way for you to improve your sex life so that both of you are happy and satisfied with each other so that you don't have to look other places. Tell him if he wants to watch someone masterbate he can watch you or better yet he can "help" you and you can "help" him back. I don't want to get into your sex life but you need to get into it with him and a counselor. Maybe you can go seek out a counselor to see what is going on in your life that is affecting your sex life. I am not married but if I saw my girlfriend masterbating to porn I wouldn't worry because she can't touch the person in the screen. It's all fantasy. you are the reality. There still is a problem, though, but is not cheeting...yet.
2007-03-10 01:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Don Quesadia 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Yes
2007-03-10 01:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by step b 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it interactive? If it is interactive it seems that a line has been crossed. If he is seeing a woman live and a woman is seeing him I would say it is very inappropriate, possibly cheating.
If it is a movie, a previously recorded this, like porn then it seems a little less creepy.
2007-03-10 04:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by chanajane3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANYTHING sexual in nature that you do with someone other than your wife is cheating. There is no gray area with this. When you married your wife, you agreed and accepted that she would be your ONLY sexual partner for the rest of your life. If you're going outside the marriage for sexual encounters of any kind, you are cheating. PERIOD.
2007-03-10 01:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by heather_chavous 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is completely cheating if he is on adult friend finder why would he go to that site thats asking for a girl to do thing sexually for u I guarntee hes done other cheating if he's done this u better send him on his way before he brings an std home trust me I've seen this with my friends ex
2007-03-10 01:30:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋