I have a situation, and I could definitely use some advice. My husband left my 1 yr old daughter & I almost three weeks ago. There was a hx of verbal/emotional abuse and I told him that he could not return home without counseling, etc. & he refused. Since then he has contacted me several times, but refuses to work anything out with me re: our daughter. I've left the door open to see her, he has not shown up twice so far. Another time he did not want to wait for me to get out of work to meet him, but he waited outside of my house (a neighbor told me.) He left minutes before I arrived home. I feel very threatened by him but was denied an order or protection because he hasn't technically broken any laws ( I have no proof of the threats or abuse.) This week he threatened to kill a friend because she called the police on him the night he left. If I let him see her and something happens, it's my fault. If I don't let him see her, then I'm withholding his child. Any suggestions?
2007-03-10 01:12:20 · 7 answers · asked by L M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to file a complaint with the courts and request supervised visitation. But I think you need to have a court order for custody first. Sounds to me like you need a lawyer. If he is threatening people, you need to have them make a complaint to the police to be able to prove that he is mentally unstable. Do you have witnesses to any of the abuse? Even mental and emotional abuse can affect how the judges rule against him if you file for supervised visitation. You need to document everything.
2007-03-10 01:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to file for a divorce. Keep track of these instances in a notebook or on a calendar. Once you have filed, in most states, there Will be a court order as to when he can see your daughter. At that time, voice your concerns about him harming you or your daughter and show them the entries in the notebook/calendar. This may warrant you two meeting in a common place to exchange your daughter. If he comes over outside those guidelines, then you have reason for an order of protection. Good luck!
2007-03-10 01:19:22 · answer #2 · answered by itsjustme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing that you need to do is file for divorce then you need to file for custody and have a child support action set in place.In the mean time you need to have your husband come to your house or meet at a restaurant for visitation.Good luck to you.
2007-03-10 01:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, get an attorney as soon as possible. I don't know what state you live in but you need legal assistance.
If you are afraid of him then don't allow your child to go with him. That's why you need a lawyer, let them do the work for you.
Good luck to you both.
2007-03-10 01:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Immediately get legal counsel! There are numerous legal options which are low cost or pro-rated due to financial need. You need to get some legal advice as to how to deal with this man. Also, start documenting everything that has happened thus far - you are going to need it!
2007-03-10 01:17:45 · answer #6 · answered by kimawah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to court file for full custody document all the things he's doing wrong record your conversations
2007-03-10 01:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋