Lets say you are writing a book - Science Of Getting married .............?

Question

Lets say you are writing a book - Science Of Getting married .............?
1>> Which are the issues you will cover in this book.
2>> How many Scientific reasons can you list in favour of Getting married??

Pls dont think that science is the only way of lloking at life, it is one the many.

Answer 1

the science of getting married can be covered in a few words.
-passion
-forgiveness
-commitment
that's the science of getting married

Answer 2

Choosing the right partner. And then a long chapter about what couples should talk about, "before" they get married. All this boring little things like, how do you want to live? How do we arrange our daily life and who expects what from whom? If we have kids, what are the other persons ideas of bringing up children?

I would spend a few chapter only on this issues and that couples should talk about this little things "before" getting married.

Then a chapter would be about, what common goals do we have in our ongoing life? Do the individual dreams fit to the dreams of the other partner or would this result in great disharmony in the long run?

What will we do in our free time? Do we have common interests and still complement each other?

And then three chapters about good communication and communication and again good communication.

Then I would add a self test to find out if it is true love of the "soul" or just passion, sex or having the idea of an easy comfortable life. Love of the soul is the base of a good marriage, but common goals is what keeps a marriage interesting and lively over a long time.

Answer 3

The Science of Getting Married:

1. Find out who you are first (most people miss this crucial step & so are doomed from the start. How can you pick the right person for you if you don't even know who you really are or what you want?!) Spend some time alone getting to know yourself as an adult. Search your soul. Find out what you want from life & go after it.
2. Don't go searching for love. Just go about your life, doing things you love & it will just happen naturally. When you are the person you're meant to be, you meet the person you're meant to be with. When you find your soulmate, you just know.
3. Don't get carried away (financially) with your wedding day. Yes it's important but it's just one day. You love each other that's the important thing. Don't bankrupt yourselves with a big production to impress friends & family. Elope if you like. Have a small service with the important people. Unless you're filthy rich & money is no object, in which case, fill your boots! But most of us work for a living. Use your $30K as a down payment on a house.
4. Never take each other for granted. Find a way to cherish each other. It's so easy to get caught up in the business of living that you forget to be nice to each other. Be thoughtful. Be romantic. Love is a verb. Work at it. It's not always easy. That's when you have to work the hardest.
5. Don't have kids unless you are 100% sure you want them & are willing to take on the enormous responsibility of caring for & raising another little human. The only valid reason to have children is that you love each other so much & are so happy that you want to bring another person into that love. You want to share your happiness with a child & help to make them a wonderful person who may change the world one day. (Having someone cute to dress up is not a good reason to have kids. Because you're lonely & feel empty is not a reason. Because the marriage is failing & you think a child may save it is a terrible reason. Because you didn't use birth control & it just happened, well, just use birth control. Children have to be wanted. They are more of a commitment than marriage. If you don't want them, if you neglect or mistreat them in any way then you have brought another unhappy, troubled person into the world which is cruel & unfair. The world is so screwed up today because too many kids were born into dysfunctional families like this.)

Scientific reasons to get married: we are social animals & have a better chance of survival when we are together. All animals travel in packs. If you bear children, you guarantee your bloodline will be carried on. You will live forever through your progeny (not a good enough moral reason to have kids though! Selfish!)

Scientific reasons not to get married: if it's the wrong person you will be miserable. Most people settle for the wrong person. They marry too soon or for the wrong reasons. Fear of being alone is not a valid reason. You should marry someone because they're your best friend & you also want to tear their clothes off. If you don't have both then it isn't the right person. Don't settle for just physical attraction or just friendship. You have to want, love & need this person so much that you couldn't imagine life without them. You are happy with them & they make you a better person. They allow you to be who you are & to continue to grow.

A lot of people get married because they think it's the thing to do at a certain age. It's like we're on this treadmill. "I'm 30...I guess I better get hitched & pop out a few kids & get a nice house & keep up with the Jones'..." It can be a claustrophobic life & doesn't leave much room for individuality.

I read a statistic that married men outlive single men. But single women outlive married women. So marriage is good for men & bad for women. Why? Because women give so much of themselves in a relationship that they leave themselves depleted. Women tend to be the nurturers. We have a greater emotional depth than men do. So we wind up caring for spouses & children at the expense of ourselves. Marriage is great for guys. Now they have someone to take care of them & meet their needs. But women's needs often go unmet. They are neglected. Instead of gaining from the relationship, they lose themselves. Now they have no time to look after themselves because there is a hubby, kids, pets & a house to look after. & men don't usually carry their weight. OK, I am generalizing. Of course there are some men that are equal partners & great fathers & very active in the family which is great, but they are the exception not the rule. Statistics don't lie.

Can you guess whether I'm married?...

I'm the only single woman in a detached house on my suburban street. I'm surrounded by young couples, small families with new babies, 1 or 2 kids, a dog. Then there's me, the artist/musician living alone (other than when my boyfriend stays over) with my cat. At my age, most people I know are married. But I don't envy them. Many of them are unhappy. If & when I tie the knot, it will be because he is my soulmate. If it happens, then great. If it doesn't, I'll be ok. I know who I am & I like who I am. I'd rather be happy alone than miserable in a relationship. I once lived with someone for two years & it was a mistake. Being next to someone you can't relate to is lonelier than being alone...

Answer 4

apparently this book will cover only theoretical concepts like absolute zero.

Answer 5

pre-nup

Answer 6

DON'T DO IT.......RUN AWAY .....ITS A TRAP !!!!!!!