There's a lot of Drama between girls in my class?

Question

I'm in 6th grade. there is so much drama between the girls in my class. there's one clique, and then there are suck ups, and then there's me and some other people, like me. I go to school in a small public school where there isn't much change, and there aren't that many kids. The popular kids hate me because i didn't turn into an immediate suck up and becasue i don't follow their rules, therefore, the suck ups hate me. I'm just being my own person but that always gets me put down. We have to have all the girls meet with our closest teacher, Kathy, every single day. Yesterday, it was pick on Rachelle day. people are making up lies about me, and all i can do is defend myself and fight back, not with more lies but with the truth. I can tell that Kathy can see through all the fakers that are just coming up with half a**ed lies to tell about me. The girls still have me though, and i don't know what to do about it. I'm gonna write more in additional details.

One example?
I can sing really well, i don't want to brag, but people have been telling me that for a long time, so one day, somebody had their iPod, and we were l dancing and stuff. Then Avi was like, hey Rachi, come do this song with me, so i was like, ok, and i hopped up on the table. the song started, (it was one from dreamgirls that Jennifer Hudson and Beyonce` sing) I did Jennifer Hudsons part, which believe me, is no easy task, and Avi, who can't really sing, sang Beyonce's. I went all out, and matched JH note for note, and i could hear myself. At the end of the song, everybody clapped, and they were like "YAY Avi!" and i'm just sitting there, feeling like i got the wind knocked out of me, partly because i just held a note for like 20 seconds and partly because nobody even said "good job" I mean, whats up with that?

Another time was when two of the girls got North Face Jacket fleeces, and then everybody started getting them. Just because i didn't get one because i didn't want one, everybody started speading rumors about how Rachelle's so poor she can't buy a North Face. Then one day, i went shopping with one of them, and they kept handing me XS shirts, and i can't fit into a 3 inch around shirt, because my boobs just won't let me. I was like, Sarah, i need a bigger size, and all i would hear was "oh, saaaah-ray, i'll get something else", and then laughing. so we kept shopping, and i am NOT FAT or big by a long shot, but i do have big boobs and killer curves, and i have a butt. So, Sarah, who has a bit of a gut, and is virtually flat on all four sides, is either jealous or just hates me. I love myself, and how i look, but i just don't know what i did to deserve this kind of treatment just because i'm a lot more developed than the rest of the girls.

this is my first and only time through sixth grade. I wouldn't say i'm advanced. The only thing i'm very advanced in is Humanities :Language Arts.

omg, i can sing, and i know i can sing, but even if i couldn't i could still sing better than Avi!

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel as i have experienced a similar that kind of thing like that before. There are a lot of nasty, shallow, inhumane people out there and you should be happy your not one of them. I know being yourself if putting you down, but honestly one day it will bring you in such a good position that everyone will regret saying bad lies about you. At the moment you should continue being yourself and don't act as a suck up (not tht you do) coz trust me it doesn't work most of the time.
Keep on defending yourself, but as long as you know the truth don't worry about everyone else, at least you have friends and also Kathy, who believes in you...I know its really hard but ignore the girls and be confident, and assertive, if they know that they're making you feel low, they'll feel as if they've "won" and don't let them do that. Just carry on with a positive attitude it will hopefully make you feel better...and maybe inform someone else about the girls who are spreading nonsense about you, maybe your parents or someone, it could help. Also your lucky to be in the 6th grade, as soon, you'll be moving on to high school so after a while you won't have to put up with the same girls.....

i just read your additional details and to be honest it sounds like the other girls are jealous of you and that's how they show it, as they dont want to admit it. I mean you said you have a good voice, your not fat, your happy with yourself, so who wouldn't feel a little envious? They (even sarah) probably aren't happy with they way they are and so are taking it out on you tht way no-one can say anything to them. (i mean im in the 9th grade and there's this one girl in my class who is huge - and i mean huge and i don't want to sound mean, but she's a nasty peice of work to others sometimes, and it just really gets to you if you know what i mean....) anyway you probably know more than them, just find a way to keep calm and try and forget all the things they say to you, which i know can be very difficult. Just don't stoop down to their level... You know how you are and that's what counts.

Anyway that was the best advice i could give you, from what i have been given aswell. I hope that helped....and remember whatever you do...don't loose confidence in yourself!

Answer 2

I went to a small school myself-it was just like that. I never was part of the popular crowd. Guess what-now that we are out of school-I am so much better off than they are!!! The best thing to do is-don't give them a reaction. That may be why they keep messing with you. If they see it gets to you, they will keep on. Don't worry, you will be in college before you know it-things change big time. Just be who you are-hold your head up high-and don't stoop to their level. Most of the popular ones from my school are drunks now-lol!!! I know it is hard but to put it bluntly-the best thing to do is keep your mouth shut. Good luck!

Answer 3

Is this your second time through sixth grade? Or are you advanced? Your dialect isnt that of an average middle schooler.

Anyway, stop defending yourself. You dont need to. I know what its like to be picked on in school, the only reason people do it is to create a level of discomfort in you, so that they can feel like bigger stronger people.

Just ignore those things, and let people act like immature children. You sound like someone who is well advanced for your age and grade, and stooping to their level only takes away from who you are.

Have your friends, be friendly to everyone else, and dont get caught up on their little battle for supremacy. Fighting back and trying to prove yourself only makes you just as ridiculous as them.

You'll find once school is over, and a little bit before its over, that cliques and cool really dont matter, and those who think that they do are annoying. Focus on your goals in life and just ignore that crap.

You will be fine. You know their lies arent true, and thats all that matters.

Answer 4

wow u werent kidding when u said theres alotta drama. but i find 3 things really weird. 1st, im in 7th grade, which means i went though 6th last year. 2nd, my name is rachel 2 (well its really raquel, but almost everyone calls me rachel). and 3rd, i have an awesone voice 2!!! well i would totally lose my mind if i went to ur school. if u have any really really REALLY close friends and u want to stand up for yourself, make sure theyr willing to stand for u 2. if not, they may not be as good a friend as u thought. if it comes right down to it, tell ur teacher of principal about that stupid clique!!! they'll be gettin quite a lecture afterwords! i really hope this helps u & good luck!!!

Answer 5

seems like you whine too much to me wow dont act like that in high school or you will have seriousley no friend come on 6th grade it cant be that bad
try freshmen year in high school then you'll feel the heat and truth you dont sound like jennefer hudson no one does and avi probly is a better singer if everyone else thinks so
so get stright and get your lil 11 year old life in order

Answer 6

Girl I know how it feel but no matter what keep on being you because in the end they are going to want to be like you. You should be happy your not like other fake and phony people at your school, also continue to love yourself it really works. And like Ciara said "Dare to be Different !".

Answer 7

Everytime one of those girls gets on your nerves just think to yourself...these are the girls that rely on their looks and looks fade. They will end up in a dead beat job with a dead beat husband.

You are very smart and articulate for your age, before you know it they will be the ones sucking up to you. Don't worry.

Answer 8

There is drama in 6th grade? I thought that only happened in high school?! I hate to see what your next few years in school are like!

Answer 9

this happens very often with most people..it happened with me too..if they are making up stories about you,ignore them..the more you fight back,get upset and try to tel the truth,the more they will do it cos they kno its affecting you..wen this happened to me,my mother gave me this advice but i didnt listen..wen i finally did,it paid off..they got tired off bugging me..and dont show them that ur upset..it will only make it worse.at the end of the day i am happy that i didnt become fake like them becos they stil are not comfortable being themselves while i am..they are so wannabe and every batch will have a set like that..i jus didnt give them that much importance enough to hurt me..they are not worth it..why dont you try making friends with the other single girls.maybe they feel the same way you do but do not kno wat to do about it.mayb u can make the first move n mayb ul gain a few tru friends who like u for who u are and are worth it.hope i managed to help and i hope it works for you like it did for me..best of luck

Answer 10

how do the guys treat you maybe you can become friends with some of them???? And btw you probably did nothing to deserve his . its a good thing your not trying to fit in a girl in my class is kinda like you but we all dislike her even more because she tries to copy us and follow us around... i ttly used to be in ur postition in5th grade i was was chubby and had a huge over bite and my only friend was the gurl i just told u about she was nice back then... well to me anyway but everyone else hated me for hanging around her ... over that summer i grew rele tall lost alot of weight and got braces so my teeth were like awsome then i was alot more popular but my friend got left behind it suxd for her buy i ddnt no wat to do so i tried to b her firend but it suxd cas everyone was always like ohh i hate that gurl (she yells alot) so now im trying to b her friend but she rele annoys me when she follow s me and my best friend and when she coppies everyone else to try to be cool so my point is BE INDIVIDUAL!!!