Why does she allow her three children do as they please. and not give them any guidance, dignancy or self-worth or respect.. They run aroud disresptecting anyone and everyone in the house. all three are failing there grades. one has failed 3 times already. the other in now from the looks of it. headed to court because of his behavior. one is not having now showing all kinds of behavior problems. They run around make there own choices and do as they please. Why does she allow this to go on when they do not even show her respect.. Her other children from a previous marriage only one has graduated. one is in jail. one has no job and seems to have no drive to get a job just wants relationships. and cannot take care of his own child from a previous relationship. yet she says or does nothing to give them guidance.....Why
2007-03-10 00:38:50 · 9 answers · asked by adapttowhatis 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Exactly, Celia An... She's also selfish probably a blamer for all her misfortunes and shortcomings on things she can't control. Doesn't accept responsibility for her life let alone the lives of her kids. Ignores doing what she knows she should and sits back and lets crap happen and then says "see, I told you. Crap just happens to me". She thinks and demands that she's a "victim". She wishes for the things she fears in order to prove she's right. Blamers know, to a good extent, though they'll never admit it, how much they hurt themselves, but they really have no idea how bad they hurt the people around them and the people who love them. Selfish, week and doomed and whether they know it or not...evil.
2007-03-10 01:04:41 · answer #1 · answered by lawolifer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is lazy and doesn't want to have any responsibility in her life.She has no concern for how her children are raised, so she lets them raise themselves.I know alot of mothers like that. One of them is my stepdaughter's mother. When she was a baby, and it would be our day to get her, we would pick her up from her mother's and it looked like her diaper had not been changed in a couple of DAYS. The poor girl would have welps on her bottom from the rash it gave her. I would try to get rid of it, but by the time I would get anything accomplished, it would be time to go back to her mother's. This little girl never cried. We would put her in a baby swing and she would be content sitting in it for an hour, and she would fall asleep in it, then wake up and just sit in it. It came to my mind that her mother must just leave her sitting somewhere for most of the day, as she goes about her business. So I got to where I would not just let her sit there, even though it seemed to be what she was used to. Eventually when she was 2, her mother abandoned her with a drug dealer, and we went over and picked her up and have been fighting for custody for a year.The sad thing is that until the court date, child support will not be stopped, they still take it out of my husband's check.We can't do anything about it because we would be breaking the law if it wasn't taken out, because the paperwork has not been changed yet. And even though no one knows where the mother is, she has still been picking up and cashing the checks. We have had this little girl for 2 years, no contact from the mother.It is ridiculous how cold hearted some people can be. Didn't mean to turn this into my own story, it just really is frustrating when there are such irresponsible parents out there. My stepdaughter now has a good life, and I'm thankful for that. It sounds like the only hope for those children is if someone comes into their lives who genuinely cares and wants to make a difference in their lives. It is a sad story, and what is sadder is that it goes on all the time. All we can do is make the best lives for our own children, and show those with bad homelives as much love and acceptance as we can.
2007-03-10 03:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lindsey H 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some people just make bad parents, unfortunately. Its easy to make a child, its whats after that makes or breaks you. Maybe the mother has an illness or she just can't cope. Or she just doesn't care at all. Sadly there are parents that could care less; she just may have given up too and did care at one point. Once a child is grown and of age, the parent really can't control him/her any which way. Sometimes its better when the kid has to find out for themselves what they're doing is wrong, the hard way.
2007-03-10 00:44:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dusk 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if this woman has a husband or not. Usually a father figure is very important to guide the children, more than the mother can do.
2007-03-10 00:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by remy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has lost complete control and has no idea how to get it back. It would take so much work at this point she has given up and is not even willing to try, therefore, they run her and she lets them.
2007-03-10 11:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by elimayme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who really knows the answer to this question is her. It sounds like she has just given up with them. It is very sad to me to hear things like this. Maybe she has problems herself with depression.
2007-03-10 02:22:47 · answer #6 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you?
2007-03-10 00:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by drorba1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either doesn't know better, or doesn't care enough to learn.
2007-03-10 00:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is weak and lazy.
2007-03-10 00:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by celianne 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋