2007-03-10 00:27:16 · 12 answers · asked by BINH T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He more than likely already knows that things aren't ideal. He needs to hear from both parents that things are going to be different but but the love you both have for him has not changed, and never will!
2007-03-10 00:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by Celeste P 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I find your wording very interesting in that you say you HAVE to divorce? You don' t have to, you choose to. I'm not saying you don't have a very good reason to tear apart that little fellow's life but I'm wondering if you really should be doing it at all. About all you can say is that you both still love him and that you will see us both although that is not always true. I divorced my husband after 29 years of marriage and found that it still had a tremendous impact on our children, especially when he remarried. She hated all of us and still does to the point of being dangerous and none of it would have ever happened had I not decided to divorce. My decision was all about me, never dreaming it would hurt my family as it has so go slowly and carefully. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-03-10 08:39:22 · answer #2 · answered by moonrose777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Mommy lied and swore to God she would love daddy till death do you part. But mommy found out that divorce is easier than working on a marriage and making it work. And mommys lawyer said she can get money out of daddy without having to sleep with him. Thats the truth so just tell him.
2007-03-10 08:37:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Itsthe parents responsibility to tell the baby.They need to work out their differences for the baby.Sometimes it isnt possible.When it isnt possible the baby will understand as he/she gets older.It wont make it any easier, there will be problems as a result of the divorce.
2007-03-10 08:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should tell it to 4 year old boy, but if he asks about his mum or dad well just tell him the truth.
Three things cannot be long hidden, the sun, the moon and the truth.
MAKE TEA NOT WAR
2007-03-10 08:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't confuse him with too much detail. don't play each other for favourites etc. just very basic info is all that is needed. such as; daddy is going to live somewhere else now. if asked why, just that you keep arguing or something basic.
the main concern is that at this age, because they don't underastand what's going on, regardless of explanation; they often will blame themselves for daddy or mummy leaving. thinking that they did something wrong or that they are no longer loved. so tread carefully.
good luck.
2007-03-10 08:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by noodle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That just because mum and dad wont live together anymore. It doesn't change the fact that you, will both, always be there for him. Reassure him that you both love him.
2007-03-10 09:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Silver 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'l tell them no matter what you'll always love them but that daddy and mummy wont be living together anymore but that they'll still see both of them
2007-03-10 08:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at that age they will not understand...just tell them that you are going to be seeing him but not together...as you don't live together anymore..but don't go into details as you will only confuse them..
2007-03-10 08:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to him as best you can, using words he knows. make sure that he knows that you both still love him a lot, and it wasn't his fault.
2007-03-10 08:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋