been married 10 yrs.my wife sneaks off to the casino spends 200. dollars or more and tries to keep it from me very often.we fight about it thenshe does it again.tonight her friend gave 30 dollar back to her that she lend to her friend a wile back but they were $2.00 bills she asked me to trade for a $20 bill ,i told her i only had $10.,she gave me the $2 billsthen asked for $10 more so she would have her original $30.she said she was going tothe casino,so i said no.because we only have this $40 until i get paid.and last week she blew $100.00 gambling,when she was suppostobe droping afriend off ,going to buy milk and diapers then coming home. is she selfish?
2007-03-08 23:22:31 · 21 answers · asked by daizy11@verizon.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes she is selfish and addicted. She is only thinking of feeding her addiction, not what is best for her family. First you need to take control of the household finances, she has a gambling addiction and can not be trusted at this point. Then you need to get her help. There are lots of places to get help for a gambling addiction. You should also seek marriage counselling so you will be able to trust her again after she gets help. You can get these services free, check your local area for gambling help and you can receive free counselling from churches and some community centres.
2007-03-08 23:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have the money to gamble away then HELL yeah she is selfish!!!! The lying is because she knows that you do not approve of her behavior, but can you afford this luxury or not???? That is the basic bottom line in this question.... if the baby will get fed and clothed even if she is gambling then it is a small pleasure that you are denying her... or something that you do not agree with. If this is coming out of a " new House to be bought fund" and it will take you al little longer to get the house, the you do not see eye to eye on an agreement.... if this is how she feels let her get a part time job to support her fun and you can still save on schedule....... I mean a hundred dollars, thirty dollars , and the other amounts that you mentioned do not tell of an addictive and hopeless gambler!
2007-03-09 07:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberlee Ann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, the family needs should come first. And you mentioned diapers - there's a baby in the house that needs caring for. She doesn't seem to be the responsible type. Trouble ahead - she might be or become addicted to gambling.
2007-03-09 07:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Bugsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that she in innately selfish, I think that she may have a gambling addiction. When people struggle with an addiction of any type it makes them angry when they have to defend themselves and regular inquiries that would would be normal for a regular person sets a person with an addiction off. They always feel like they have to justify themselves and their addiction to themselves and it is an impossible task. Don't take it personally, its her addiction not you but I do recommend her seeking help so she can get over it.
2007-03-09 07:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by Rosey83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say she's selfish, I'd say she's addicted to gambling. She needs some help dealing with this addiction. But in order for it to be successful, SHE has to want it to be successful. Make it clear that she MUST get some help and make a sincere attempt to get this under control if she wants to remain married (assuming that's how you feel).
2007-03-09 08:48:07 · answer #5 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the aswer to your question. She clearly had issues with money and gambling. I would seek out help for yourself to find out how to deal with this issue. Talk to her about the seriousness of the issue (even though I'm sure you probably already have). I'm sorry you're going through this. Talk to her. good luck to you.
2007-03-09 07:27:33 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not only selfish she has a gambling problem. She needs help. Get her to Gamblers Anonymous immediately if not sooner.
2007-03-09 07:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she's addicted to gambling. She needas the right help from the right people. There's Gamblers Anonymous for one.
2007-03-09 07:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say she was selfish, I'd say she has an addiction. She needs your help to stop, she can't do it herself. Take her to a Gambling anonymous meeting.
2007-03-09 07:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's selfish. I think she has a gambling problem. Try to seek help for her, there are places to turn to like gamblers' anonymous.
2007-03-09 07:27:24 · answer #10 · answered by pixie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋