what do u do, if u were in a serious relationship, now my ex only calls me when drunk 2 say he loves me alot?

Question

why??

and what does that mean>??

he said he did that cause he misses me


ok advice plz

Answer 1

you have reason 2 b in turmoil but then even if this sounds easy to say but u r the best judge of the whole picture.u r still allowing him to control u in a way....he is still getting what he desires!ur presence wen he needs to talk....n wen is that?when he is sozzled.what about ur choices.would he listen to u if u were the 1 calling up drunk or even otherwise.he is doing it cz u r allowing it to happen maybe in the hope of getting back to what is the past.dnt u deserve better than this deal?

Answer 2

That's fine and dandy but try to bear in mind these things:

1. Remember, he is your EX. He's the EX for a reason(s) (e.g. he cheated on you repeatedly, was a drunk or on drugs all the time, etc). Don't forget those reasons.

2. He's drunk and drunk people say all kinds of crazy and sometimes stupid things. Ignore him.

3. I'm sure he's jealous. Here he sees you apparently at least reasonably happy without him in the picture, he remembers when you and he were together and it tears him up to think you might be happy without him and that you'd be happier with someone else. As such, even if he wasn't hammered, I'd take what he says with a grain of salt.

4. Next time he calls, you need to tell him politely that he needs to sleep it off and have a nice night. You don't have time to talk to him.

Bottom line, don't be suckered by this guy. Be polite but if he pushes the issue, he needs to know that it's over and that train has already left the station. You've moved on and he needs to also.

Answer 3

I have two daughters who are beautiful together young women. Oddly enough they were both in a situation like yours last year. When they broke up from a long standing relationship it was because the guy drank, had no ambition, whatever. Both my girls are ambitious achievers.

Both of them, the guys would only phone them when they were drunk and would get all maudlin and go on about how they loved them, etc. That was the only time! The one just went away after awhile, the other he became abusive verbally and my girl had to do a restraining order because it accelerated.

Your guy is weak. He drinks and that is the only time his inhibitions come down and he realizes how much he misses you.

It happens all the time. It means NOTHING. Don't fall for it. Just move on. If he doesn't stop, change your number or something. That is what the one girl had to do.

This is a lose/lose situation.

They both got to the point where they said, "You know we are over. Go to bed now." then hung up and let the phone ring until the guys gave up.

Good luck.

Answer 4

I agree with the person who said to change your phone number and move on. The only reason this man is calling you is because he's drunk - take it as a sign to let him go. You can find someone better!

Answer 5

Well Honey, I dont Know How True This Is But I Have Heard That A Drunk Man Speaks A Sober Man's Mind...Hope This Helps...Good Luck!

Answer 6

I had that happen to me by an ex boyfriend. He showed up at my house when the bar closed. I told him to go home and sleep his drunk off, that I didn't want him. It kept happening week after week, till he finally quit coming over. I had to remind him several times that the alcohol was the reason I left to begin with.

Answer 7

He calls you cause he is wasted&he really do love and misses you .Haven't you ever heard that the truth always comes from a drunks mouth.Well It's true that he love you amelia.

Answer 8

it means he still loves u, as they say the truth does come out when a person is drunk. but if your now seeing someone else, it is best not to talk to the ex, not to get sucked into it again, because he is an ex, there was a breakup for some reason, something didn't work, and won't work again.

Answer 9

well, you must not be in that "serious" of a relationship, if your drunk ex saying he loves you and misses you has you wondering what you should you. Don't the answer the phone!

Answer 10

poeple do silly things when they are drunk , there is possibly a part of him that regrets it , but that isnt your problem.. it is his , you have moved on , and now your ex is coming into the picture to try and hamper your efforts of renewal, that is unfair , and should be stopped , I would suggest you put his number on divert in your phone , and change the settings , so the phone doesnt ring - or goes straight to voicemail , cos this is unfair for you , and your new partner . however you should tell your new partner about it .