he cant drive and was like this when i met him.i donot love him but i have stayed with him because of the kids so far.
2007-03-08 21:11:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, time for you to rekindle your relationship and work hard on your marriage, so your kids continue to have an intact family.
2007-03-09 00:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sister is married to a visual impaired person and also has twin boys who suffer from the same genetic impairment. Yea she gets frustrated with drving him around and they have great fantastic fights but they love each other. Go seek some marriage advice. Don't ever make the excuse that you are staying for the children or using his disability. So what if has a visual impairment. If you don't love him then go.
I rather see kids in a happy home with one parent than two parents arguing.
Remember why you fell in love in the first place. You know the situation better than any one else so trust your instincts and go with it. Good luck.
2007-03-09 06:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Dimi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you not love your husband??? You chose to marry him even though you knew he had this disability. You never should have married him if you do not love and cannot accept his disability. Now that you are married however you need to support him and stay by his side through all of this and seek counseling and help and learn how to love him the way that a wife should. No i do not feel that this is a reason to leave at all. You need to work on your marriage. Poor guy!
2007-03-09 06:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would come in here for advice hon? You give no details of importance. You obviously loved him at one point or you would not have children.
It is very shabby to leave someone because of a disability. Because he cannot drive? Downright shallow!
Is he a good father? You do owe it to your children to stay with him. Many marriages are loveless. There are many reasons to marry and love can be highly over rated. If he is a good man you really have no excuse.
You need to think long and deep here. You have children to raise in a society that values marriage & relationships less and less. Is this the message you want to give them?
Think long and hard.
2007-03-09 05:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by Noor al Haqiqa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he was like this when u met him, u knew this, why leave him alone and hurting, shows u really are kind of selfish. why did u marry him if u did not love him at all. just because he is visually impaired is no good reason to walk out on him.
2007-03-09 05:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staying with someone for the sake of the children is often not a good idea. it is better to have one happy parent then two misrable ones. if you dont love him then why did you have children? or stay together for as long as you have? beening able or unable to do something shouldnt matter.
2007-03-09 05:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by purss2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm...
Did you forget about the "better or worse" promise?
"I do" didn't mean you promised to love and hold....
till death do us part?
To me, it seems like he and the kids don't deserve you. If you were in his position and couldn't see...do you think he'd leave you for that reason? I doubt it.
Are there other issues about him that are so bad you can't stand to live with him? Geeze...
I think You're the one who needs help and who knows, he and the kids might be better off without you!
2007-03-09 05:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by babbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offense but if you didnt love him then y have 2 kids by him....but, u shouldnt stay with him just because of the kids...you should be with the one you love, but still let him spend time with the kids.
2007-03-09 05:28:54 · answer #8 · answered by MomOf2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Always think of the kids, and do what is best for them. I promise you that when it is all over, they are all that matters.
2007-03-09 05:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by mel s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is put yourself in his shoes and ask the same question then.
2007-03-09 08:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋