I have dreamed about one girl 20 years. However, she rudely rejected me. What is the meaning of my life?

Question

I hoped that I will find true love and therefore I have abandoned many others girls. I hoped that she will love me. I have made some mistakes and she do not care about me at all.
Yes, I know that everybody has right to accept lover or not. But I am asking different question here: where my 20 years has gone. I am waking today and I see that i have lost all my best years invain without any reason. If life has any meaning, what I have done? How God will repay me for my lost life?
If you answer me: you are just fool, then I will jump to conclusion that love is just madness and that we all have just to spend our lives invain. In fact, her rejection told me that life has no meaning at all and everybody can hurt anybody else. In fact, if there is not reason, let us take weapons and kill each other when 'whatever you do, the result is the same'.
may if I kill somebody from her family she can understand what it means?

Answer 1

Life – it has a meaning and loving purpose - you just have to find your purpose and live it.

I believe every person is here for a definite purpose. Each person is special and valuable; that refers to me, you, your family, friends, in fact everybody! There is a loving plan for each of our lives here on earth and there is no such thing as coincidence. I don't believe that anything in life happens by chance and that every aspect of our lives points to something deeper.

You need to decide now to live for God rather than for yourself. You spend your life on Earth preparing yourself (as best you can) for death. I don't see death as a scary, negative experience, but birth into a bliss filled eternal life with God. I believe that this is something you have to consciously choose or not during your life on earth.

The meaning of life is for us to discover that we are true children of an infinitely loving God, to find out what our responsibilities are to our Creator, and to fulfill those responsibilities. Each of us is called to affirm, accept and develop the talents God has given us.

Answer 2

You're currenlty very emotional, and it's suggested that you do some strenuous exercise for a while. Go out to a park and run for the life of you, play a sports you love, jump on a bike and pedal like mad (but safely so).

Then once you've burned up all the stress chemicals and are hopefully feeling a little better, consider this.

I do not think God decides who you love, or who loves you. 20 years of your life is probably a little too long to spend on a girl who doesn't love you in return- if you love her with all your heart, that's fair enough by all means. However, if she doesn't love you, and your best efforts have failed to get her to see the better side of you, then there's nothing more you can do.

Love is not rational, so you're probably not going to agree with any of my advice. Moving on is an impossible task, so distract yourself for a while until you're ready. If you must think about your situation, and more specifically, that particular girl, then do so but do so carefully. It's easy to get emotional, and while it's a bad thing to kill emotions, just make sure you keep them in check. Don't let yourself get too angry or upset, and if you find yourself hysterical, exercise thoroughly to the point of sweating.

All else failing, seek out professional help, even if it's over the phone. Maybe talking to someone who's dealt with the same problem may be of use.

Answer 3

bad happens to us all, we don't always get what we want in life, but have to accept what we do get, u have rejected others, waiting in vain for one. when life lets us down that's when we pray for wisdom. we don't always get the person we love, but there is always someone else, u have rejected that someone else. waited on something that will ever be, and now bitterness has set in, bitterness because u haven't resolved your grief about being rejected. its mainly our attitude that determines our destiny, its how we choose to respond to hurt, we can choose to let it destroy us, or we can just go on with life, and accept what we are given, and make the best life we can make. she did not hurt u, u hurt yourself, by failing to accept the truth.