I am 55 and have fallen in love with a girl of 23. We are in deep love and have intimate relationship. At times, I am confused if I should continue taking into consideration futrue of person whom I love. I have discussed this with the girl and she will not accept to live without me. I also do not think I can have any life left in me withour her and she also think so.
2007-03-08 20:35:43 · 33 answers · asked by arunsamwel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nothing can be a barrier for Love. Age, Color, Religion..nothing. Love always not meant passing time in bed. It is more than that. Bond between heart is most important. I find nothing bad in this relation. Wish you good luck.
2007-03-08 23:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by dibesic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very difficult! Unfortunatly there is no "real" answer as i'm sure you know.
If the pair of you are in love and aren't hurting anyone then i can't see a problem other than yes when she is 33 you wil be 65!
If she is really and truly TRULY willing to stay with you throughout your old age when she herself will still be a young verile woman then you my friend have found someone very special and should hold onto her.
If you don't care about what other people think (and you shouldn't! They have no direct bearing on YOUR life.) then stay together! Your a man of 55 and in those 55 years i've no doubt that you have come to realise that true love is a most rare and difficult thing to find and keep!
Don't let love slip away just because your relationship is seen as "taboo" you are both well over the age of concent and like i say if you make each other happy and arent hurting anyone else? Just live your lives the best you can and bring some joy to each other in a world that so desperately needs it now more than ever!
2007-03-08 20:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A classic Lolita syndrome (Lolita a character in the novel "Lolita" by Vladamir Nabokov [1955] ) Lolita also means a precociously seductive girl. Your concerns about the future with her are well grounded. Although she is adamant about being with you ( as you are to her) your confusion rests in the fact that the future of you two remaining together is uncertain. Because of the age difference, while you are established in your life she, on the other hand, is not as stable as you. You ought to know how how life changes at that early age and how she feels now may not be the same for her in some future time. For now you have a great relationship going as you both seem happy together. You are in a position to teach her a great many good things and instill in her the knowledge of your years. On the return you are breathing in the sweetness of her wonderful youth. That makes you one heck of a lucky person which can make others a tad jealous. Apart from all the snide innuendos that you are likely to incur, enjoy each others company and relish in each others good fortune of finding each other. Just know that there may come a time when you two may have to part and be ready for how you, and she, will need to deal with this.
2007-03-08 21:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cant be love, there are thousands of reasons for it still if your alone without kids and financially strong you can just have some funny time for yourself to satisfy your lust. Its all natural human tendency to be attracted though it is a taboo in our religion(HIndu) It does not carry any much meaning to the western and arab culture.
If you really love her and she too loves you it's just that you are lucky guy.
The age factor does have its own say, the need of energy and power for the drive should be maintained to the desired levell to fullfill her pleasure. Its totally in her hand and mind the way of getting fully satisfied(its not verbal, but practical need of the body to carry out the routine).
Dont worry it is only taboo in our country(India) the world goes on.
Mind it: If you are a family person or having kids ensure that you dont stay along with them and also distribute your assesst accordingly then only get your self married to this girl.
If you dont play positively towards your other responsiblities only Muncipal corporation would do your last rites.
2007-03-08 22:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no problem. Do not listen to anyone else. This is YOUR and HER lives. My only suggestion is to be sure you have a good prenuptial agreement and be sure she has separate legal council. Just to protect both of you. This is not only about protecting your assets in case she is a gold-digger, but also to protect her from your family when you pass away. Do yourself a favor, follow your heart and marry her, but also use your head.
Be a good man to her and teach her. By the way... I'm 37 and my fiance is 22.
* ADDED: To those that say it is not love: how do you know? I would be cautious about saying such things. Maybe they do love each other. We don't know. I assume they do.
PS... I have been away from Yahoo Answers for a little while, but I came back to see this "Top Contributor" badge on some accounts. It has not taken me long to discover that top contributor is a obviously a quantity measure, not quality.
2007-03-08 20:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age Has Nothing To Do With Love. As Long As You Are Both Consenting Adults There Is Nothing At All Wrong With It. Besides, You Can Not Control Your Heart Or Who It Falls In Love With...Hope This Helps...Good Luck!
2007-03-08 20:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by Žɐɓɑɲɐ 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love has no bondings but being elder to her, You should not get involved with her in any intimate relationship. At least if you truly love her avoid her, so that she can mold her life. Think about her parents and their dreams they would have seen for there 23 year old daughter. Save her and forget her if you are really a true lover.
2007-03-08 20:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you have your family... wife, children etc...? and what the girl is doing...? studying or is in a job...? are the vital questions without the answers of that it is not easy to answer this question...
if you are a married man having your own family then this relationship would be branded as an abuse being done by you... remember you are in a vulnerable position... be careful... better try to disentangle from this relationship...
if you are unmarried man without any responsibilities of a family... then you can take your own decisions about this relationship...
2007-03-08 21:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by Harish Jharia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your old enough to be her father. Just what do you two have in common other than having sex? 23 yr. olds are not known for their maturity and critical thought. After a couple of years and the "newness" of the relationship wears off I think you'll both regret it.
2007-03-08 20:41:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only say, Love is Blind.
If you both think that U cant live without each other, then get married. If her parents are oppose to it, then run away with her. After all how long will you live..
2007-03-08 21:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋