Recently I met a guy, who is alot older than me. I met him off the internet. He seems so nice. He is like 25 years older than me. He listed on his profile that he was after friendship / activity partner. But I met him a couple of times and everything went well. We had a great time together. I really enjoyed it and I think he did as well. He sent me an email a couple of days ago and asked to sleep with me, or if I knew anyone who would sleep with him. I said no and told him I didnt know anyone else who would. I want to see him again and I really hope he wants to see me again. What do I do and what do I say to him to not hurt his feelings? Like I said he seems very genuine and really nice. I dont want anything more than a friendship with him. How do I approach the situation and let him know that I am still interested in being friends with him? What do I say?
2007-03-08 20:16:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know your and his age - 25 yr difference doesn't matter to me to much if it's legal and a couple other things.
But tell me this....some day when you have children, do you want to describe their dad to them like this, " Your father was so sweet. He's one of the nicest guys I ever met. He kept being nice and genuine just to get me in bed. He was so lame that he actually e-mailed me the question of whether I would have sex with him! Given that I was not interested, he was more than happy to sleep with my girlfriend."
Okay, so of course you don't want to sleep with him, so you may argue that the above doesn't apply, but try this one. The above guy, pretend his name is Rick, becomes a great friend of yours. Rick is so great that even your husband likes him, the family knows him, and the kids call him Uncle Rick. Do you really want the kids having an Uncle Rick with such low morals?
2007-03-08 20:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by jennainhiding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darl, just the fact he asked you to sleep with him is enough to show him the door. Having said that he had the audacity to ask you if you knew anyone who would sleep with him, that is despicable and degrading to you as a women and all other women as well. Darl, honestly he isnt even worth being a freind making statements like that. Find someone more worthy of you and preferably not so much older.
This is really just a case of a man finding a sex partner on the net. You could send him a email but if it was me then I would just block him from any further contact.
Move on darl and find that special someone, hes out there somewhere, you just havent found the right one yet.
2007-03-09 04:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess you 2 have different ideas about activities. Send him an email back and tell him that your not gay , but that you misunderstood him about activities. Then tell him that you really enjoyed talking to him and would like to keep a platonic friendship with him, and that maybe you might even be able to help him find a life partner, if that is what he is looking for.
Good luck ,and I hope everything goes well, friends are hard to come by.
2007-03-09 04:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that him being 'nice' is just a cover for him to sleep with you. Even more bizarre is that he asks if any of your friends wants to sleep with him.
Just email/phone him letting him know that you are not looking for that kind of relationship.
You deserve a lot better than this. Believe it or not there are some genuinely nice guys out there, who are looking for something more than sex.
2007-03-09 06:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jones2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I would like to know why you would want someone like this as your friend? What kind of redeeming qualities does this guy have?
A NORMAL person wouldn't email a person they just met and supposedly likes and ask them to sleep with them! And THEN he had the nerve to ask you if you knew anyone who would sleep with him? WTF???!!! Talk about a perv! You need to run for the hills! This guy definitely sounds dangerous. You said that he wanted an "activity partner"-I can only imagine what type of "activities" he is referring to. Ugh!!!
Well, if you REALLY want to be friends with this guy (God only knows why!) be honest with him and tell him that you ONLY want to be friends and that that means no sexual contact, no intimate relations, etc. and that NO you are not going to pimp out your friends or anyone else to him for his pleasure. Yuck! Why would you want to hang out with a guy who wants you to find him someone to sleep with? Seriously, you could do better...but if you are not careful, you could do worse!
2007-03-09 04:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by True Hija De Oshun! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's so difficult in telling him you want nothing more than a friendship? Hey, be straight. You can still see each other if you tell him this. If you sleep with him and get pregnant, he might kick you off like
2007-03-09 04:23:13 · answer #6 · answered by cyla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop all means of contact with him pronto. Clearly, he's a sexual predator and you're playing with fire, honey. (Much) older men have more experiences and they totaly know how to lay the trap on young girls like you. You don't need a friend like him, who even asked you to be a hooker (gross!). The sooner you get out of this, the better off you'll be.
2007-03-16 21:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by simpletreasures 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't contact this man again, and do not answer any of his calls or emails. What he wants from you is sex & thats IT. You were very very silly meeting him in the first place & could have been in a very dangerous situation....this time you had a lucky escape DO NOT under any cicumstances do this sort of thing again.
2007-03-09 04:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur kidden urself !! hes not genuine or nice ... lol he asked to sleep with u and thats all hes gonna wanna do for as long as u allow him to...id love to say hes a nice person but everythin u said bout him makes me think otherwise.... be careful.. hes old and lonely and wants sex is all he wants... he'll be as nice as a saint to get it.. so dont fall for it.... u dont need a friend like that... but if u still go with it.... be very careful is all !
2007-03-16 03:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by I V X 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him no and that you don't want to ever talk to him again or see him again,, and keep looking for someone to be with as a friend.
2007-03-16 15:49:22 · answer #10 · answered by Jo Blo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋