What is it about some people that makes bullies choose them?

Question

Is it jealousy? Its been bugging me for ages. Why do the bullies feel they need to be nasty to some people and not others?

Answer 1

It is hard to say why bullies pick people the way they do , but I do have a few reasons, you can pick which is better.
1.Could be jealous-but in most cases its because they have low self esteem issues and they need to divert it on to someone else
2.They usually pick on people that look a little more unique or different than others, but usually they see something that reminds them about themselves in the victim.
3. Sometimes bullying is carried over from their very own household- apple doesn't fall far from the tree theory.
4.They need to have attention-and because they are usually inferior in some way they will only bully when they are being watched by others.
5.Some do it because it gives them a sense of power which they don't get in their every day life.
6.Some are just born with their minds a bit twisted-but because most of them do not get tested for mental instability unless they have committed murder or some kind of brutal crime they get a way with it at a young age.

Those are just a few of my opinions. I have always stood up to bullies head on and they have always left me alone after. I am a minority where I lived and I was very easy pickings being so much different than everyone else. I am still in the same community different town , but some of my past tormentors will defend me and they started that when I got into junior high. I am also female on top of being a different race and religion being both Roman Catholic and Buddhist was no picnic either....lol....I find if you use a sense of humor mixed up with sarcasm and lots of witty remarks also stops a bully .
Hope your question was not from personal experience, take care.

Answer 2

Bullies can single out their victims for all sorts of reasons.....it may be jealousy......it may be they feel the need to keep someone down in order to keep their on ego on target. It may be the person is different in some way and it is some kind of perverse pleasure to mock the difference. Bullies tho at the end of the day are the ones with the problems......very often the choose to bully because they have been bullied or neglected. The bully has issues.....they are not happy people always worth remembering.

Answer 3

they pick on the people they think are beneath them. the quiet ones, the ones that do well in what they do. Bullies usually target those who by bullying them will make them look good to their friends.

Its a sort of jealousy, a feeling of insecurity and having to prove things to themselves and other people. I really don't think its anything personal in many cases, just unlucky for the person being bullied.

Its not nice , i know, i was bullied right through, secondary school. But now when i see them, i just think ' look at you and look at me, i'm better than u'll ever be', just keep ur head held high!!

Answer 4

it particularly is amazingly a complicated question which has many solutions. often a bully is a individual who has been bullied in the previous and has learnt that behaviour. It on occasion stems from jealousy or because of the fact the bully feels threatened by technique of the guy they're bullying (no longer in the actual experience, yet possibly activity advertising case in point in the workplace concern.) If a baby is being bullied in school, it may be that the bully sees the youngster as vulnerable and no longer able to guard himself. The bullied baby may be vivid in the college room and the instructor makes use of him as an occasion to the class (I genuinely have time-commemorated this to have befell). the youngster is probably no longer of the "In Crowd" and to that end is a real aim for bullying. Bullies are many times insecure and can desire to exercising their 'means' over human beings. they're very unhappy persons. i actually grew to become into bullied in the workplace by technique of a supervisor. i'm an somewhat effective individual, nicely able to cope with myself. I took the suited action and gained my case. No-you will go through on the arms of bullies and the superb suggestion i could provide is to withstand them, seem them in they eye and tell them which you will no longer post with it.

Answer 5

bullies are usually people who aren't happy with themselves, and their own lives, so they pick on other people in a desperate bid to make themselves look tougher and better than others. i was bullied at school. i wasn't one of these shy people who never stood up for themselves - if they said anything to me, i gave as much back to them. i think this probably stopped the bullying from getting too serious, but it didn't stop them altogether. personally, i think i was bullied because i looked and acted differently... i was into goth music (this was before it became popular again in the past 3 or so years), and i was 'blessed' with having big breasts, so of course i was an easy target. basically, if u look or behave differently from what the bully perceives to be 'normal', they might well try to start calling u names, and if they get a reaction off other students, like they join in, or laugh, then the bully sees this as a 'green light', and will continue the name calling in order to gain more attention. sadly, it can sometimes get out of control... and bullying seems to be getting more and more violent. i now have a child of my own, who's 4 years old, and i do worry about him being bullied... i have decided to enrole him in self defence classes as soon as he turns 6. i want him to have the confidence to defend himself, should he need to.

Answer 6

Usually just the fact that the victim is usually different from the bullies, whether it is dress sense, I.Q, disability, etc, and bullies are so in a desparate attempt to redress the balance in terms of inner insecurities in the only way thier intelligence (or lack of ) affords them. Probably most important of all is that in many instances it is replicated behaviour borne of personal experience,ie they are probably are experiencing bullying via a parent, elder brother, or even within their peer group....

Answer 7

It might be that the bullies are projecting behaviour which is something they've been on the receiving end of, and they seek people out who they believe are similar to them (somewhere in the subconscious). They detest this because they see themselves and blame them selves so in a way it's self destruction. Evil gits why can't they just go punch a door?

LOL this is rubbish umm unless it only accounts for some of the bullies.

Answer 8

Some people are wiling victims. I was in 1st grade when a bigger bloke wanted to bully me. I took off a wooden shoe and hit him over the head with it. This makes the rounds.
End of story.

Answer 9

Because they believe they are an 'easy target'. All bullies are cowards and highly insecure so they bully to make them feel better about themselves.

Answer 10

this is just my philosophy but here goes...if a bully sees someone who is better than them but a nicer person who wont say no to anyone they bully them. i think its because they feel that that person has something in their life that they never had... be it friends, money good looks

hope this helps x