I'm just wondering, I'm not really able to cry, and I don't know what this means. And this is especially weird, cause I suffer from depression and cut sometimes. I hear all these things about ppl with depression crying for no reason, and kids huddled in their rooms crying because they can't express their pain any other way than cutting and stuff. But I can't cry, atleast not about my life. If I'm watching a show or reading something, I can cry over the dumbest things, like when a parent is reunited with theirl kidnapped kid, stuff like that. But I can't cry over things in my real life that really upset me. Stuff that makes me confused, angry, sad, depressed, everything. I feel the pain, but I can't cry. Even when I'm at my lowest and considering suicide, I can't cry. At most, if I try really hard when I'm really upset, I can get a couple of tears out. Ok, my point is, what does this mean? I feel the feelings, but can't cry. Any idea? Thanks
-Sarah
2007-03-08 19:48:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You express your pain throught the cutting insead of crying, and the reason you cry at the stupid suff is probably because you are transfering the pain from yourself on to those incidents. You should try to figure out why you do this, do you feel like you are being selfish if you think about yourself? If you're still a teen you might just out grow this, I did, I was just like you except I didn't cry at anything.
If you are older, past 30, I you seek help for this unless this is the way you want to be for the rest of your life.
2007-03-08 20:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by vampire_kitti 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you feel the need to be tough in front of others and lock your tears away.
Maybe some deep hurt has made you decide that numbness is better than softness of heart.
Whatever it is, it's okay. Maybe like the first answerer suggested, you need a place where you can feel safe to cry. It takes a lot to overwhelm me and make me cry but even then I only cry in three places:
1) in my pillow with the door closed.
2) when I'm with those I trust
3) when I'm SERIOUSLY overwhelmed at which point I don't care anymore and just release.
Hope you find what you need. God bless.
2007-03-09 04:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by Studier Alpha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way but the opposite. I cry about my life but I don't cry when my friends die or when my relatives die. I feel like a zombie and I can't cry at funerals even though I try, the tears just don't come out. But when I'm home alone and I think about my life I start crying like a baby.
I guess it's the brain...I don't know. Depression...
2007-03-09 04:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Come Break Me Down♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get you. I'm the same way when i depressed. I was crying the other day over greys anatomy..really. But i found that when i got a therapist, that person became my cry person. When ever i had an appointment i would walk into her room and just cry. Odd really but i felt better. it was like a safe place to cry. So you might want to try it. it becomes easier i sware.
2007-03-09 03:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're locked up for some reason. I used to be, but I got over it some. Usually, I only cry if I'm talking my issues out with someone I trust (I feel better when I do cry, it's like relieving pressure). Sounds like you need a therapist or a friend.
2007-03-09 04:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by peanut g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is you'll have to get through the anger before you can get to the tears. You may be surprised at how much anger your carrying around. Cutting is one outlet for the anger but as with any self destructive behavior it reinforces a negative feedback that will end in poorly.
I would strongly advise getting a counselor. If you think counseling is for the weak, try it.
2007-03-09 04:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Balddragn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents must be happy that they dont hav a crying baby to keep them awake.
2007-03-09 04:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by zyp_john 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋