my best friend is of late and his husband wants me to take her place in his life for the sake of their little girl whom i love soo much and because he finds me capable.my intentions in life is to have my own husband and not my late friends'.
2007-03-08 19:38:33 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try saying "No".
2007-03-08 19:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can give you the best answer to your question. The answer is " Baby I'm sorry I never meant to hurt you but right now I'm not ready for a commitment" or you can say " Baby give me a little time to think about it" but before you give him a yes or a no ask him do he really love you and is he proposing because he need someone to take his wife place. You will need to know that before you say any thing
2007-03-09 12:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by naomi walters 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you love the kid and have been bordering on playing the surrogate mother role and He may just be confused with that, despite your genuine intentions. For delicate matters like this, approach the topic gently and cautiously - cos he may be asking you for marriage only because he doesn't want his daughter to get used to a "whole new mother" all over again.
2007-03-09 04:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Its like you said..he wants you to take her place..Thats not too healthy of him to think that way. He should want to "move on" not have a replacement of his late wife. You may be a safe move for him but..you should probably sit down and talk to him about this and let him know that you appreciate his gesture but that he should probably talk to a therapist about moving on before he can even think about marraige...only because he obviously has some issues. I'm sorry.
2007-03-09 04:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Minty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shewww.....You've found yourself in a doozy...If you love him, which from the sounds of it, you prolly don't, then just say yes...Now on the other hand where your dilemma lies, is that you apparently don't. Honestly, the best thing to do would probably just be blunt and honest and tell him you don't feel that way about him. I wish you the best of luck with this ordeal.
2007-03-09 03:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by Shaun L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no because you have intentions of marriage too and that decision would interfere with that. You can still be there for the little girl.
2007-03-09 03:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply say no. You have no obligation. Obviously you don't like him in that way so just say no. The children don't have anything to do with this. Keep in touch with the children if you must. Good Luck!
2007-03-09 03:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is insensitive of him. Thank him for the compliments but let him know that your not prepared to take on the role as a mother nor wife.
2007-03-09 03:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by SGElite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry him he is gonna become your husband and not your friend's husband... and (if you don't want to marry him)to take care of the baby you needn't take her place... you can take care of the kid by being a friend........ so the choice is yours
Good Luck
2007-03-09 03:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your post is about as COHERENT as someone whom had drank 3 bottles of Wine and tried posting a Question.
By the way;.........what kind of Wine were you drinking?
2007-03-09 03:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by The Sylvan Wizard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him a big NO. Maybe he is not a good person by heart that is why your good friend left him alone and so now you cannot be a next victim.
2007-03-09 04:03:41 · answer #11 · answered by funxxxnxxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋