I am not divorced yet but thinking about it. One thing that puts me off is the way the courts will decide where and when the children see their parents. My husband left, I didn't want him to go, and he is in Canada where he has a professorship. He's hardly seen the children for the last two years, a few weeks at summer and Christmas. They are really upset that he left, and want to see him sometimes - but not in Canada! We went there and they didn't like it. Soon to be ex husband says that he wants to see them on his turf.
What will happen in a divorce? Will the children have to see him in Canada? They don't want to, and also the country border things scares me - will he let them return if they go there?
This is just one reason why I haven't started a divorce - but I need to as he isn't supporting the children at all...not one penny for a year now...
2007-03-08 19:37:16 · 8 answers · asked by katy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's not a dumb American, he's a brilliant British professor. Emotional IQ of minus 2 though.
No need to think I connect visitation with child support. Shallow. Yes, it does matter if someone leaves their family penniless in the USA, that isn't self centred to be worried out of my head about how to manage the money. I can't see an attorney as I haven't got any money for food, let alone attorney fees.
2007-03-08 19:57:22 · update #1
Thanks for the answers - how do you apply for support? Does it have to be through an attorney? I haven't got any moeny for the fees - I contacted one and she said $50,000 if I wanted to divorce someone in Canada.
2007-03-08 21:04:30 · update #2
You don't need to get a divorce to get support payments started. You can apply for an immediate financial relief lump sum payment as well as ongoing support. How easy it is enforce/collect, I don't know.
You don't have to have an attorney, but there are paper to be filed and procedures to be followed. I'm Canadian, so I'm not exactly sure how simlar or different things are. If you have paralegals there (low-priced, pseudo attorneys), you should consider meeting with one just to help you get immediate support. That would at least help get you started.
Is this guy so void of compassion that he won't give you a dime to support his kids? When I left my wife, I let her stay in the house (was paid for) until we were divorced (3 years later) AND gave her $1,700 a month without a support order. She only had our daughter living with her.
Good luck to you.
2007-03-08 20:53:28 · answer #1 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, what's wrong with Canada? If your husband doesn't send the kids back, he'll be arrested by the Canadian police just like in America and he'll probably be kicked out of Canada too. The last thing we want is another dumb American roaming our country let alone one with kids! Get a lawyer.
2007-03-08 19:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get it OUT of your head that child support is payment for vistiation, it's not. Just because he had paid you nothing he is still entitled to see HIS children on HIS turf whether YOU like it or not. He is bound by law to send the children back, if he doesn't he can be arrested for kidnapping...they do that in Canada as well as here. Either you start divorce proceedings or you stagnate where you are because you will never really be able to enter into any other relaitonship until you ARE divorced. If you meet a guy and eveyrthing is perfectly matched and you want to get married...you will have to wait until your divorce is final before you can...You are extremely self centered and are going to have to get over that or else you could wind up in a worse place than being forced to send your kids to Canada to visit their father.
2007-03-08 19:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
First I say get a lawyer. Then I would say that he left and if he wants the kids he will have to pay for things.Plus you know where he lives.... Go to court and have a visitation plan outlined. If he violates it. Get the kids and arrest him. The kids will have to get over it that he lives in Canada now...not their decision. Call them when they are there.
2007-03-08 19:50:56 · answer #4 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many "it depends" situations in this case that there is only one person who can answer this question for you: your attorney. Time to get a lawyer and discuss all your options. Good luck!
2007-03-08 19:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont' ask legal advice on here. Talk to an attorney, there are so many that will provide a free initial consultation.
2007-03-08 19:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
generally, i ould say the court would prefer the visits not be out of the country but it may be allowed by a judge. if there is a fear of parental kidnapping, you can state your case.
2007-03-08 19:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer hun.
2007-03-08 19:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋