Lobsters are the only animals that are are innately monogamous, but is it possible? Why do some long for it? The idea of the love of my life having sex with another person hurts, yet it seems to be an inevitability.
2007-03-08 19:19:51 · 4 answers · asked by mj 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I do believe that monogamy is a myth. Humans aren't wired for monogamy, even though we live in a culture that encourages it.
The reason why so many people long for it is because a lot of people don't want to end up lonely. They figure that if they have someone and have a relationship, they imagine this bubble that will keep them together - this bubble is often the figment of many people's imagination, often in people new to relationships. Some people feel that this bubble is what keeps them trapped in the relationship and they can't go anywhere, because they will lose the security if they go outside the bubble.
Other people who are polyamorous or who have been in many monogamous relationships feel that they can penetrate the bubble, and can go outside the bubble without any harm.
After awhile, people who have been in failed monogamous relationships realize that the bubble is a myth and find it much easier to breakup with people.
Anyway, that has been my experience - I used to believe that there was this bubble that keeps people together, but after seeing so many people get divorced or breakup, myself included, it seems that the bubble is not really that strong of a force. It seems to just pop after awhile.
Then after awhile it's not so much a big deal, especially when you get exposed to wild sex parties, then monogamy is just boring after that. You never want to be monogamous ever again once you participate in an orgy. You have the time of your life! Trust me, it's great! Then everyone is your friend and you get every need fulfilled - cuddling, kissing, sex, friendship, you name it.
2007-03-08 19:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by cuteblondecrystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is real not a myth. Take my side, I have been married to my husband now for 13 years and I prefer to be with him for the rest of my life because I value the sanctity of marriage and I am proud being monogamous.
2007-03-09 03:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by kibbs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. Monogamy is still what most people say they believe in and want for themselves.
2007-03-09 03:34:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kedar 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They may feel that sharing who they are with another person may in a way cheapen who they are.
2007-03-09 13:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by la reina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋