HELP!!! Hes really out of control!?

Question

My son is 7 years old and hes WAY out of control I mean WAY,he is in the 1st grade and has been kicked out twice now,He does go to a Pscholigists but it doesn't seem to work,its like he knows what he is doing and its funny,when he is in trouble he smiles,HE will not sit still for nothing at night he wets the bed,we even cut liquids off at 6pm,Medication has already started 7 months ago,I need more advise then a pscholigists!

Answer 1

Reward system. Focus on his positives and praise him for all he does. Buy a calendar or make one up and post what you expect from him. Make sure you start small. on Monday you can write...must put away toys. If he completes that, he gets a star. Tuesday...help mom with the dinner dishes. After a week of earning his stars, reward him with a movie, out to lunch, a new toy, or a piggy bank where he can save his money to buy himself something. Teach him that there are rewards for good behavior. Today most parents teach their children that there is punishment to bad behavior. Lets focus on rewards for good behavior and stop focusing on his bad behavior. Focusing alot on bad behavior is not good for you. Your feelings can turn on him and it will be hard to get those good feelings back. Get involved with him and show him you love him. Tell him "there is nothing you can do or say to stop me from loving you" and Believe It!!

Answer 2

It sounds like there is lot going on with your son and the psycholigist is not able to give him the help he needs. Psychologists can be really helpful, but i have had more luck when working with Liscensed Clinical Social workers. You will need a psychiatrist if you decide to switch to the LCSW for therapy as they are not medical Dr. and can not perscribe meds. However, many LCSW are better versed at helping the entire family. I would suggest getting a new psychologist immediately. Your son should be carrying some sort of diagnosis at this point. Look for someone who specializes in that area (generally speaking, if you research a therapist and see five or six areas of "specialty" after the name, they may not be specialize enough) of diagnosis. Do the same for LCSW. If you are already working with a psychiatrist, ask him as well as your pediatrician and the psychologist at the school your son attends for recommendations. You can also contact your insurance provider for a list of mental health professionals within their network so you can cross reference referal agains it. It will take a lot of work and that can be very disheartening, but you can find the right threapist out there and you will see a change.

Answer 3

Sounds like you have pretty much ruled out the obvious problems associated with this, insofar as curtailing the liquids and all is concerned. You may need to consider some discipline--could he have problems with authority figures? Has he gotten away with things as a small boy? It's unpopular, but it looks like the options are narrowing down to this, since you are already on medication, and it's not working.

Of course, it could be ADHD--and, if so, you need a new doctor. Just be careful about "chasing good money after bad money".

Oh--as to disciplining--there are ways non-physical with this. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Wow this is a hard one to answer easily, the first thing I would do is to sit down with your son and explain to him just what the ground rules are. Of what would be considered as acceptable behavior, and what would considered as unacceptable behavior. Set down ground rules!!!! then stand behind then, put the ball in his control your good this happens your bad this happens. but above all if you say it ( if you do that then this will happen) it has to be so. So chose your word's wisely and try not to speak in anger, Word's wince spoken can not be brought back nor can you take back the hurt that they can cause. This a problem that will take some time to correct, but with Lot's of love and by being firm with him I think he will come around to your way of thinking. Good luck, please be Patience with your son, but make him accountable for his actions. reward good behavior punish bad. and above all else get both parents on the same page of ground rules, no deviations. He can not be allowed to be told no from one of you then get an its ok from the other. No means No.The anserr can not change from one parent to the other this is where you two have to realy get together, and be tuff. dont give in to his whining. be firm

Answer 5

Hi again, knowing what i know about you and what you have mentioned about your son( i have a 7yr old son too) I would sugest to you that he is an indigo child. have a look at the website (www.highervibrations) or google indigo children. You will see a lot of similarities between your son and possibly yourself there. And ways of raising them that works, because the conventional ways just dont....Love and light, xxx

Answer 6

Children live what they learn. You should be able to figure out why he is doing what he does & make the proper changes. Something must be out of whack. When you figure out what that something is you should be able to change the behavior. I feel sorry for him. Something must be bugging him. I suspect you might have an idea what that something is. I don't believe medication is the answer.

Answer 7

You're asking the wrong people!! How about another psychologist? Get a second opinion. Or your GP? Maybe they have some other suggestions. There's always the chance that it could be nutritional or nurological.

Whatever happens, best of luck to you!!!!!

Answer 8

It sounds like you may need a 2nd opinion, try another Dr.
I am sure this is very hard as a mom, don't give up!

Answer 9

Sounds like he has attention deficient disorder, or something like that, this should be controlled by medicine and by emitting certain foods from his diet, like fizzy drinks and sweets, things that make him hyper, why not take him to another doctor, what's happening is not his fault because he cannot control himself.

Answer 10

sounds like he needs to switch therapists