My daughter just turned 14. She looks much older for her age. She works out at a local gym by our home, I was very upset tonight when I picked her up, as was she. She was working out and a man who she said looked like he was probably in his late twenties or early thirties started working on the machine next to hers. She said he said to her, "You're 14, right? Eighth grade?" and he knew her school! She just looked at him and was very scared and uncomfortable! He also said to her that you look like you are about 19! She got nervous and shaken up and went and hid in the bathroom and worked out there! She also heard him talking to a guy after that saying he had just moved to our city and told the guy the street he lived on and it was our street! We live in a small town! I asked her if she's ever seen him before, she said just there several times, this was the first he's approached her! She is extremely scared now and creeped out! My husband and I are alarmed! Should we notify the police?!
2007-03-08 18:32:56 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it might be wise to speak with them on this matter----if he is innocent nothing will come of it-----he will just leave her alone and thats all fine and well------just as it should be------but what if he really is a predator?I'd be interested in learning how he got so much info on her and then approached her like this.--------and THEN when he said you look like you are about 19-----thats the icing------sounds like you better act fast on this one------------Good Luck!
2007-03-08 18:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by EZMZ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not yet because they probably can't do anything since he didn't say anything inappropriate but you shouldn't let her go to the gym by herself no matter how much she begs you. He might just be a predator or he was just being friendly, you never know now a days. Be very careful. Also invest in maybe some pepper spray or mace. Just watch him carefully to see if he might be approaching other young girls. It's very scary out there for a female. I was sexually assaulted and I thought the guy was actually decent and I was 22 at the time. They go for all ages and they will do anything to get what they want. Don't get paranoid just watch be careful.
2007-03-09 02:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First notify the gym where she works out to help keep an eye on her. Then contact the police to see if he has a record. If he's a convicted pedophile, he's already broken the law. If he doesn't have a record, there's nothing the police can do, but keep a close watch on things just the same.
2007-03-09 03:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, you can't do anything legally. You can get your daughter one of those sonic alarms where you pull the plug out and it screeches quite loudly, so your daughter could escape if necessary. If you are really worried, does your daughter have a cell phone? Then you can keep contact with her and she can call you in case of emergencies. What I wanted to do when I first started working night shifts alone at a gas station (in which I would be going on the bus between 11pm and midnight each work night) was get a spritz bottle and put lemon juice, cayenne pepper, and glitter in it to spray in the eyes of negative strangers for mace is illegal where I am. I hope this helps and your daughter stays safe!
2007-03-09 02:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not notify the police, but as a parent, I would make it a point to find out exactly who this guy is, and where he lives, and basically as a parent, "keep my eye" on him. Depending on the situation, I may even talk with him, letting him know that I don't see a reason for him to communicate with my daughter at all.
I would congratulate my teen on being careful, watchful and safe, and run through some possible scenarios with her, so that she knows how to respond in the future (whether this guy is potentially dangerous, or whether he's simply one of those type who don't know how to socialize properly).
I wouldn't want my teen overly frightened, but I definitely wouldn't want her complacent either. (which is why I advised running scenarios. i do that with my own kids, and didn't realize how valuable it was, until i realized that, caught in a potentially bad situation, most people waste precious time trying to figure out what to do)
good luck, and i hope he's just one of those people who don't know how to be properly social.
2007-03-09 02:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by Tess O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, as he has not said or done anything to threaten her directly. However; I would terminate her membership at the gym immediately and site the reason for such with the mangaer and keep a closer eye on her from now on.
Should he try to contact her after that, then I would contact the police and ask the to get his personal info from the gym, and request a restraining order.
2007-03-09 02:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is much the police can do until you know the guys name at least. And his age. Because he might just be a new kid on the block who is about to attend the same school (just looks older) and admires her beauty. But if you and your daughter do feel threatened, and if he crosses any line, then do go to the police to let them know.
2007-03-09 02:37:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check the Megan's Law website to see if this guy is a criminal. I would definitely call the police to inquire about my options. Strangers should NEVER know this kind of information.. especially one of a 14 year old! This guy sounds like he's been following your daughter.
Find out his name and what he's about. Go to his house and give him a piece of your mind... but don't go alone.
2007-03-09 02:40:46 · answer #8 · answered by fatcatkeepers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
call the police-better safe than sorry.
i am trying to be hopeful here. perhaps he is a new neighbor with a child of his own the same age as yours? if it is a small town chances are there is only one middle and high school so it would be obvious as to what school she goes to and his child could have mentioned she is in his/her class. maybe?
anyways tho i still would either confront him yourself or tell the police. they can confirm if he is a neighbor. i don't know about your states laws so i don't know if police can tell you outright if he is a pedaphile or not but if you haven't done so already you should check meganslaw.org. enter in your address or zip and it will bring up pedaphiles in your area comeplete with pictures.
2007-03-09 02:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, call the police as this man has no business stalking anyone never mind a 14 year old teenager.
2007-03-09 02:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋