do you believe in marriage counseling?

Question

is it better to go threw counseling or just end it period?? were just too different. he irritates me! we've been married five months but only known each other a year. there are things about him that drive me crazy and things I do that make him mad such as smoking. he is pushing me so far away, to the point I don't even want to be around him

Answer 1

With what you describe, I don't' think you knew each other well enough to get married. I'd say that marriage counseling might work if you had more in common as far as attitudes, but with him trying to distance himself from you already five months in i don't think he's too interested in staying married to you either. End it while it's still cheap and easy to do. Next time get to know someone a little better before saying I do.

Answer 2

Yeah the marriage counseling is a great idea. At least it shows that both of you are willing to at least try yo save the marriage instead of just running around cheating on each other or just giving up on each other. Not to judge you but marriage shold be looked at like an aplication you want to make sure to the best of your ability that this is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with instead of rushing into things. A lot of people these days don;t really weigh all he pro's and con's of their mate before marrying them and that's when things start to unravel. People need to stop ignoring the warining signs that pop up during the boyfriend/girlfriend stages and during the engagement stages. A lot of people over look the negative things and just focus on only the good things in the relationship. I mean if in the beginning of the relationship there's cheating, lies and distrust don't just think that things are going to change when marriage occurs. Good luck on the marriage counseling.

Answer 3

Yes, sometimes a third party can have a better or different perspective on things. I also believe that counsellors have the ability to 'take the emotions' out of the issue and use reason to tackle problems in relationships and life.

Being annoyed by our loved ones is normal. You certainly don't have to like the people you love. What you do have to do is learn how to respect your loved ones, yourself and your commitment.

Then again, some people just shouldn't be married to eachother...sounds as if you two rushed into things. I'd go for counselling and take it from there.

Answer 4

And you got married because....?

If you can find a good enough answer to that question, you may have a reason not to break the ties and proceed with some counseling.

Otherwise things look grim. I would recommend to not get married to anyone you don't know for less than 2 years...

Answer 5

IF the couple has any reason to save the marriage, then counseling is usually a good idea. It forces the couple to focus on their relationship and the way that they communicate with each other (or the lack of communication).

IF the couple never should have been a couple, then counseling is a waste of time for both of them and the counselor. That is, unless they attempt to learn how they got into this unenjoyable situation.

It is far better to learn how to communicate effectively before entering a relationship than put up with all of the shocking surprises and disappointments that comes from a lack of open and honest communication.

Answer 6

Not unless both parties are willing to put the work into it.

A lot of people resort to couples therapy when they are at their whits ends and expect it to be some magical cure. Unless both people involved are determined to save the rel., do all the work that needs be to improve the status, and ultimately are convinced there are problems but you still have enough love to want to stay together, then it simply won't work.

Been there done that got the the T-shirt.

Answer 7

Sure it can work...Look at it this way...you use marriage counseling all the time. Every time you talk to your friends at work or family members about your spouse...you are basically using marriage counseling. So it is possible for a professional counselor to help too.

Answer 8

no!! i have an idea that if you can't stand the person but you have different traits that can benefit both of you in the relationship then its a worthy relationship otherwise i think you should git out before sum thang little festers and becomes big

Answer 9

Personally I believe you need to do all you can........including counseling to save a marriage. Thenyou at least know that you tried.


Don't rush in to things so quickly

Answer 10

Try counciling first.
It can really open your eyes and give your love a second chance.

But if it really isn't working I guess leaving eachother might be the best option.