I thought he was OK with it, but he's lived here all his life. We're not moving that far only about 5 minutes from where we live now and he is still near his friends and will go to the same school. My husband and I are separating so his father is moving to a different house about 20 minutes away. Is there anything I can do to help him feel better?
2007-03-08 17:45:07 · 7 answers · asked by missthang1960 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We can't afford to stay where we are now.
2007-03-08 17:53:10 · update #1
give him time to adjust to the changes. He is probally really upset that you and your husband are splitting up, plus moving added to it, Is there any chance to possibly stay at the same place? I would just keep reinforcing that it is not his fault, and that you and your husband love him very much.
2007-03-08 17:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just having trouble couping with the changes in his life right now. He also probably has the added stress of almost being done with school and has to deal with "the next step after school" too. His life is changing to as you are separating from not your husband but his dad (in his eyes). It is a lot to deal with. But he is your son and you are the parent and you decide where you live not the child. He will be okay once he sees that his friends will still be around and he is close to his father too.
2007-03-08 17:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im so sorry approximately your situation. some adult males could be so bitter. One could think of that by skill of you beginning as much as him approximately your father molesting him could reason him to sympathize with you and draw closer to you that may additionally assist you heal yet somewhat he's including insult to harm. sounds like what he's doing is emotionally abusing you. What you at the instant are experiencing on your marriage is not any diverse (different than actual) from what your father did to you. you could seek for plenty plenty counseling and permit him to go away. pass on, build some self-worth, set up a existence for your self and your little ones and stay nicely. do no longer enable this guy to rob you of your peace of concepts or happiness. sounds like he's having an affair and attempting to blame and argue with you as a thank you to discover an excuse to pass on. enable him to, you would be stunned how happy you would be on my own. In time, once you're healed, you will discover somebody to love and get excitement from you in basic terms once you have on condition that to your self. frequently i wouldn't in any respect advise divorce, yet think of is carefully undesirable for you. maximum suitable of success
2016-11-23 16:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by bate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's family is broken it's expected. But 20 minutes is nothing. He'll be fine in 4 to 7 months.
2007-03-08 17:50:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is about that age, You have got to list all the good things that could happen do to the move. list all the good reasons for him to read and then tell him not to whine like a little 2nd grade girl that don't get her way, at 17 he needs to get his skin thickened up for the real world. His dad should be doing this, at 17 I was on my way to Europe to face Russians and East Germans in a probable fight to the death. good luck good parent.
2007-03-08 17:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by neoconammo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
now that you explained it, it cant be a friend or school thing, sounds like it may be he's having trouble with the divorce?maybe he's worried about seeing dad, or maybe he's scared for you being alone now,maybe finding a family counselor or maybe even a pastor at church for him to talk to, maybe even a youth group for divorced families,or maybe him, you and your husband need to talk openly about this, find out what scares him.good luck and god bless you and your family
2007-03-08 17:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by debbie d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wave good bye as you drive off
2007-03-08 17:48:37 · answer #7 · answered by marshoberg55 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋