Do you sometimes wonder "what if" you were still with your first love?

Question

I know, I am trying to move on, but now I am starting to wonder "what if" we were still together, I was just wondering if anyone else has felt this way with their first love and if this feeling ever fades away even though you find new love in your life...

Answer 1

My mind used to travel there once in a while, but to be honest...now that I am with the love of my life. I have not for one moment thought about it. The first love will always have a place in my heart, but my fiance is the one and the only. He trumps them all.

Answer 2

This is an excellent question. I think everyone wonders what life would have been like had they stayed with their first love. Did you ever hear an old song by Garth Brooks called Unanswered Prayers? That is exactly what the song is about. Most of us have felt that way. Most of us wonder, especially at times in our lives when we find ourselves unhappy in a relationship or alone in life. I deem you are "super normal" dont dispair we all think along those lines. The feeling fades some over the years but I think most people wonder from time to time and most would not change their histories if theycould. Good luck to you thanks for the great question that made all of us remember our first loves -k-

Answer 3

First it is really hard to get over your first love. My first love was amazing. We where going to get married and everything. And I moved away and found another man a loved to. Well long story short I had to see my first love to make sure I didn't love him anymore and what I found out is I still love him just not in the same way and now I am married to the most wonderful man on earth. but once in a while I wonder what it would have been like if I would have choosen my first love. But I think it is normal to think back a wonder. I have been married for two years and I don't think about as much as before I got married and right after I got married but it still does come up in my mind once in a while when I see a movie we saw together and on his birthday and even my birthday because he calls me. I hope this has helped you out.

Answer 4

Some people think that not because they really want to be back with that person but more as a question of where you would be. I used to think about that all the time. There is nothing wrong with it, yes it does start to fade, you will always have some love for that person, no matter how great the person you are with is, it was your first love.

Answer 5

It is normal to consider the "what ifs" in a past relationship. Just do not get so heavy with these scenarios that you miss out on the potential of a relationship that could last. It is easy to see all the positive aspects of a relationship that has ended but you must have had some bad times or you would not be apart. Bring the positive things into a new relationship and learn from the things that did not work so well. Good luck!

Answer 6

The wonderful feelings never fade - it was a 'first' love. But you do remember the bad feelings at the end? How you broke up or they broke up with you? Things that are over had a beginning, a middle and an end. Remind yourself of that. Something tells me you have a new love in your life BUT the beginning isn't quite exciting enough for you - either that, or you are stuck in the boring middle.
Wow, I remember first love. I also remember why it was not my last love. Think about it and you will remember that reason too.

Answer 7

I honestly think this is normal for all of us. Every other woman I have talked to has at one point in time "wondered how their life would be if they were still with....." The first love of our life is one we will never forget, no matter how old we get. The feeling definitely hides away because the relationship you are in overpowers it...until you go to that H.S. reunion, or you get into a huge fight and just start doubting your choices. All in all, I think it is completely normal for you to be feeling this way. And in all honesty the more "in love" you fall with the person you are with...the less you think about that stuff. By the way I have been with my husband now for 7 years.

Answer 8

I have a lot of boyfriends in the past because my feelings is not steady. I will love a guy then after 3 weeks , a month, a year my love will fade. I use to run away from them. When ever i left my boyfriends i really dont have feelings for them anymore. Maybe theres not a lot of guys who'se courting you that's why the feelings still there.

Answer 9

Love is such a wonderful and powerful thing but you know it is a choice. Life is also complicated and stressful but of course we have to live it. Also know that in life we have alot we have to live with and regrets shouldn't be one of them. Know that in love you do all you can and then what happens...happens. We can't stay in the moment of what if this and what if that you are suppose to do all you can while you have the chance. So take that as a lesson in life, so the love you have now make sure you love like you never been hurt before, and live everyday like it is your last! That way you can avoid the horrible what ifs.

Hope this helps!

Answer 10

Yes I still wonder and I've been married for 8 years to a wonderful man. Would not change that for the world. My first love died when he was 17 of a massive heart attack. But my husband understands that he was my first love and we probably would have married if he hadn't died. But you will move on and love again. And it can be great or greater the 2nd time around.