Im a very shy reserved person.. I need stop this behavior and enjoy life more then i am... I really dont talk to anyone but my family because it seems i no longer know how to socialize.....how can a shy person as myself break out of my bad nonsocial ways..... Thanks for your answers :)
2007-03-08 17:28:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just remember that being shy doesn't help you to get to talk to people.
When you talked to someone, don't be so concerned with what they think of you, instead when you talk, say something that could make people like to continue having a conversation with you.
If you're feeling shy in front of people, at least just greet them or waved at them. You will see that some people will try to approach you.
2007-03-08 17:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by FloralLover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also a really shy person too and I only get shy around ppl I know are manipulative, but no matter where you go, it's jus life. Find a passion, hobby, things you like doing, and join clubs at school or talk to ppl you know who are into the same things. You should try developing friendships through common interests and try not thinking too much about what others think about you. You're your own person and that's what makes you different, but don't exclude yourself from other ppl who may turn out to make really good friends.
2007-03-08 17:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sabrina T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the factors reducing your effectiveness maybe any of the folloving:
1. skills lacking: Talk to a college therapist, typically they have some handouts on "common sense" about the oppositte sex the ve are supposed to knov. SOme of us are just better at picking up vhat the other sex is all about. This can be relearned.
2.vorry thoughts in loops: if I vorry and this leads to more vorry and more it is a vicious cycle that doesnt end until you use a good teacher on hov and have the vill to stop it. Imagine a big stop sign saying stop, vhen the vorry loops.
3. emotions that interfer "the opposite sex can arouse emotions often in conflict, if you are not prepared, that vill hinder your chances at vanting to be more bold. EX: I think someone is so attractive that I blurt out, "I love You". Vell that probally just scared them, and nov you feel like a fool out of control b/c you did not intend to do so, it vas only the jumpy fear. So recognize emotions and see if there is really something to vorry about or not. See: Cognitive Reframing.
4.indecision: stress kills ones productivity at a point, it stops motivating us to come up vith novel ideas to personal issues. To study for a test ve use anxiety to get us off myspace and to the books so ve dont fail. If stress is too high ve vill never "get off the computer at all, ve vill just stare into space numb"
5. the environment (can I reduce "noise" so I can think more clearly"
2007-03-08 17:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by melancholee33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was really shy as a kid. And now at 39 still feel as if I am inside sometimes. But, I learned to act. I taught myself how to pretend I was another type of person, one who was alittle bit more assertive than the real me. And in time the acting me got more and more confident, more outgoing, and enjoyed other peoples company far more. Then one day I realsied, I wasn't actually acting anymore, it was just me being me, and people liked me for who I am.
Sometimes even now when I am in awkward situations or job interviews etc, I put on my acting head for a while and it gets me through.
Give it a try. Good luck.
2007-03-08 17:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by wonkyfella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start saying hi to all the people you know when you see them and give them a smile. It might seem weird to them at first, but it'll pass. And when someone has something to say, you should listen to them. This will make you a great listener, and more people will want to be around you.
And if it's too quiet, ask nice questions such as... "How are you?" "How was your day (so far)?" or just say something nice to them. "I like your... (shirt)." It's easy to get to talk to different people. Just make sure you don't make the wrong kind of friends who will not have good influences on you.
2007-03-08 17:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make it a point to talk to 3 random people a day. A smile usually gets a smile in return. Ask them a question. What time is it? Where did you get that? Dont you live by me? People will respond to even the dumbest question you can think of. Then just talk to them.
2007-03-08 17:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by mrcarl92807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i dont really have the greatest answer for this, but i suggest you just relax and know that whoever you talk to(about whatever) just remember that they wont bite you heheh. i myself was a shy person til i thought "whats the worse thing that could happen". Good Luck dude.
2007-03-08 17:34:06 · answer #7 · answered by miss. blue eyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one way out force yourself to socialize ,it may be hard at first but you soon learn at least one thing a humurous person is fun to be with learn a few jokes too !!
2007-03-08 17:36:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I used to be shy and i know what your going through and i broke the curse. see its fear that holds you back the fear of what people might think of you, scared you might not have a good conversation well anyways you know. So I suggest that you just say hi to people and learn how to make good conversation and get the fear out of you.
2007-03-08 17:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by michael h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Self-consciousness makes that a problem. Just feel confident and talk clearly and loudly without fear. Act like your in a movie with a mean director and he demands you to talk like there is no tomorrow.
2007-03-08 17:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋