Any woman who have cheated and got back to their husband after a long separation???PLease let me know how you cope out. Is it worth it??What you need to do
2007-03-08 17:26:37 · 12 answers · asked by Larisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It can be worth it yes but keep yor eyes and ears alert. If there is true love there really is a chance it could work. Its a hard hill to get up and over and may seem impossible at times but it really can be done.
2007-03-08 17:30:24 · answer #1 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, it depends on what the situation was.
If thing were running very before and she did this after some problems erupted between you, then it is worth giving her a chance?
The reasons is that when there is a misunderstanding or some mental disturbance, a woman in general being very emotional gets disturbed a lot. In this case it may happen that some other person may sympathise or understand or help her at that time and eventually they may get involved. But this doesnot mean that she has betrayed you, but her mental situation might have driven her to do so (mostly unknowingly) and perhaps she is now feeling she is wrong. You should try to step in her shoes and feel what she feels. But I really think you should giver her a chance. Afterall you have the option to kick her out if she ditches you again. People do make mistakes by a chance has to be given.
Now, the other reason is physical. Look, when we marry the two main reasons are mental peace and physical satisfaction.
If one of the things are missing, things are bound to go awry. And the blame is mostly on both of the partners i.e. both of you. It has always been said that women need sex more than men and also take a long time to get satisfied. Sometimes, things get out of control and wrong thing happens. But eventually as time passes, they understand their mistakes and wish to come back. In this case also there is nothing wrong to give her a chance.
Look, it is better to get betrayed for sex than love. because in the former case your love is intact and in the latter you have to build love which is a little difficult. And of course sex is not a big matter as swinging has become a lifestyle. Try search for swinging in google. Afer all you are just allowing her to get the pleasure which she might not be getting enough but this doesnot mean she does not love you. And if you do not like this then try to justice by satisfying her and if you can't then why make her suffer. Why not let her enjoy and live a lovely life as before.
After all this is just an advice but take my word it's easy to loose true life partner for such things but difficult to find a suitable replacement and what if the history repeats with the new partner. Try ti understand her and sort things out.
That's all.
Please keep me updated
2007-03-09 02:01:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ketan Vaishali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every situation is different. if you love each other and are willing to leave the past behind to make it work here are some tips that may help.
1. you must learn to trust again or it will make things harder.
2. learn from the mistakes made the first time to help better your relationship this time around.
3. never throw it in her face when you are having a disagreement. this will only show that you have not forgiven and may push her away.
good luck.
2007-03-09 01:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going back to your husband due to a compromise, that is if there is no where else to go then forget it , it is of no use to go back , but if you are going out of compassion and love for your husband then it is worth a try, time will heal all the misunderstanding because positive emotions will prevail
2007-03-09 01:32:23 · answer #4 · answered by Practical 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depend's on what caused her to cheat in the first place, is the problem still there.
Is it a mental thing, personality type; just unable to commit fully. Got to get to the root before you can really answer that one.
2007-03-09 01:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not worth it the trust is broken forever I no that cause you would not have asked this question if their was any trust once a cheater always a cheater.
lots of luck
2007-03-09 01:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Dianna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman should be grateful that her husband is willing to take her back. All the best.
2007-03-09 01:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The yall still love each other, then YES, of course it's worth it!
But if you don't have feelings for each other anymore, then what's the point of being together?
Cheers
2007-03-09 01:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-09 01:34:57 · answer #9 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about trust. Why be with someone who cheated? Once a cheat, always a cheat is what I think.
2007-03-09 01:29:21 · answer #10 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋