husband/wife relationship?
2007-03-08 17:22:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i wasn't so horny anymore but he got horny to the max... its just so weird!!!
2007-03-08 17:27:09 · answer #1 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby changes everything. You are tired, you are emotional and he is either a good dad and helps or he is an a.hole and makes you feel like shooting him which isn't exactly good for the marriage bed.lol But, if he is decent and you are doing ok but tired, you have a real chance of doing a lot right now to help yourselves out. First. Make date nights. At least 1 night a month. More if possible. Plan it with him around his work or whatever, plan for the baby sitter, mom ot a sister or someone who you can trust. Make it an all nighter, home early morning for the baby is fine, if you must. Work up to the night with little notes, hints and ask him what he wants, maybe using the note like school kids....make a mark here do you want to do this check yes or no and leave it on the carseat so when he goes to work he'll see it. Then do little things like plan out a movie or a restaurant, depending on money, a nice hotel room or just at home and let them take baby home with them. Whatever works. Make it a two way...you make plans for the first date lat him do the next one and don't make fun, whatever he does is good!!! Build his ego a little. Sex is still important and if you don't want to get pregnant make sure you use two forms of birth control, please. You are fertile after giving birth. How many babies are conceived close together??? Work on the intimacy part and the other will come, take time to listen to him, and also tell him what goes on during your day...it is your lives together. If you feel it getting bad, do something to save it. See a councelor, clergy are free and good, also taking time just to go for a ride and talk, whatever you need. Men keep things inside and maybe don't think their ladies are as sexy after giving birth, you prove that yu are sexier becuse of it. You are a real woman now. He'll get it. Good luck to you.
2007-03-09 01:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the focus changes from you and her to all of you and the mom gets alot of contact with the baby so they don't crave the cuddling and skin to skin contact as much but that all fades with time and if the father helps and steps in then it makes the relationship stronger. You become stronger as a couple and prouder cause of the little bundle of joy that you have made together. Your world change from depending on each other to having this cute little helpless thing depend on you for their survival. Kids are the most precious thing in the world.
2007-03-09 02:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by mommy of three 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I find out how much more I love him when I watch him be a father. Singing to a baby, reading to the toddler, teaching to play games like hide and seek, the list goes on and on. We do have less sex than we used to, but now it's about quality rather than quantity. Now there is less focus on the husband/wife relationship, and more on the father/mother parenting partnership.
2007-03-09 01:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my husband have always had a great marriage, after the birth of our daughter everything just seemed to fall into place. We are still very happy. It strengthened relationship, not that is wasn't strong before, but stronger and stronger every day.
2007-03-09 01:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by tide chic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Husbands are always ready; but wives may not be. When a wife becomes a mother, her priorities could change. But my advice is that you should take care of your child as well as your husband.
2007-03-09 02:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by kenneth h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes with a baby. It's not always bad.
2007-03-09 01:27:53 · answer #7 · answered by Brown-eyed girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Attention was more focused on the child than the partner. Just have to make sure there is still time for each other.
2007-03-09 01:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We got stronger...and more tired.
The focus is no longer you or him but the children. Time together becomes more valuable (w/o the kids I mean). I began to appreciate her more then too.
2007-03-09 01:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by jw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not good but i had two kids stayed with their dad 10 years and divorced
2007-03-12 17:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our love just grew stronger and deeper.
2007-03-09 09:38:32 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋