I would like to know from a married male, how has he dealt with a cheating spouse ?

Question

my husband has been cheating on and off since last year. I don't know rather I should leave him or stay and stick it out. I need a males point of view and how he deals with the situation with his spouse.

Answer 1

Anyway there sre alot of people who gives answer without thinking here so dont bother too much on answer like divorce him, just think for the future of your family. Do you have a child??If have you must work out the marrieage in all possible way, course she will be very hurt in whatever way you choose to end. Its not healthy,,,Otherwise just ask yourself wheter what you need to do to save your marriage, ok

Answer 2

It's a work in progress, and progress is slow going. The trust, as well as the bond I felt we had as a couple, were violated. It's a mixture of emotions for me. I truly don't think she has a grasp on the amount of damage she's done. Sometimes I get angry because I feel she should know exactly how I feel and others, I just love her with all my heart and would do anything to spare her the sense of rejection and worthlessness that I must work through. I am slow to change the things that she claims pushed her to the arms of the homewrecking little SOB that exploited her fragile emotional state at the time, but I am trying. She, in turn, is trying to be a little less selfish and more communicative, which is a major issue, as she, by nature is quite closed off emotionally.
Through everything, I know that I am not complete without her and the forgiveness will come when I feel comfortable trusting her again. There are good days and bad days. There are days of fear, paranoia and resentment, when I just want to punish her for her betrayal and others when I just want to hold her tight and love her for the rest of my life and tell her everything is going to be alright. I wrestle with these issues almost daily and it reminds me that nothing worthwhile is ever easy. Whoever made up that rule should get smacked.

Answer 3

I got a divorce. I had dealt with this before we were married. It is possible that both parties are not at the same level in the relationship. But we had a child together and I decided to work things out. But once in marriage I feel that there is no excuse for cheating and I divorced her. Marriage is an contract between both people that says they will be faithful to each other and lays out that the feeling for each other are at the same level. I say divorce.

Answer 4

My opinion as a married woman. If my husband cheated once and he came to me fully repentive for his cheating then I might give him a second chance but if he did it a second time then there defintly won't be a third. If you know what I mean. And I love my husband till the end of the earth. I never want to be with anyone else but I would never lose my self respect to any human being, especially a man.

Answer 5

Why in the hell are you asking for a Male's point of view that doesn't make any sense.What a male would do, well you already no what a male would do and he is doing it .They cheat and lie and any female out there who says not my husband I have a good one, he just hasn't gotten catch yet that's all give it time. One per cent of the male population doesn't cheat.

Answer 6

Hi I'mnot a male but i have been cheated on and i have cheated on my ex husband ok so can i help you in anyway... well let me see here i cheated on my ex husband and we would have been married for 10 years and i messed up and when i got with the guy i was sleeping with we were together for 2 years and i just left him 2 months ago ok because he was cheatting on me and plus he was on drugs too ok and i know it is not right for your husband to cheat on you so if i was you i would talk to him about it and if he does not want to work your problems out by talking and i really don't want to say this to you but do you guys have any children together if so well you and your children need to just live or make him live the home ok

Answer 7

From past experience - tell him he's fired - hand him his walking papers - say "Goodbye don't let the door hit you in the a**" - throw his clothes on the front lawn - change the locks on the doors - post his cell phone number at gay bars - contact the cheaters show to plaster his face all over national television - tear his part out of every group picture you have taken with him(and leave his part on the lawn with his clothes - call the radio station and have your cheatin' heart played and dedicated to him - and finally when he calls to try and patch things up tell him, "I've got just one thing to say so listen, you've been cooking this divorce stew long enough, it's done and ready for you to swallow!" Then hang up and call a lawyer.

Answer 8

But you're female? And you want to know how a male deals with what? Cheating? Well, you need to leave. That's a female point of view.

Answer 9

Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
I forgave her, and we are still married 20 years later..

Answer 10

it is hard to deal with a cheating spouse, it takes away ones self worth, and how they feel about themselves. even if u did forgive it, and even if he promised not to do it again, he probably will. best to leave the marriage, than to keep suffering and hurting. once they betray u, trust is lost, and seldom can u get those feelings u once had for them back. if it's been going on this long, than he is emotionally attached as well, meaning he could leave u for her, depending on how hard she pushes it. cheating hurts the one who is cheated on, ruins the love she once felt, even if they did come back to u, u would never know if his new relationship ended because he ended it, or if she just dumped him. u would always wonder if he loved u or not. i don't think if a man cheats on u that they really love and respect u.