At 4 months pregnant, I started dating this wonderful guy. Throughout the relationship my hormones and my temper made me such a horrible person. One week ago he broke up with me. I took a trip 12 hours by car away to get away from my problems, but came home and they were still there. I'm still in love with him and hurting everyday. I'm not sure what to do, I just know I want him back in my life. He's not a bad person: never rose his voice to me, never hit me, and made me feel safe. We've had our disagreements, but now I want him back. We had so many talks about how we were going to raise 'our' (and he said it first) daughter together... now he doesn't even want to see me. He says he's hurting right now, and I am too. Why won't he come back? He knows things will change and he knew getting into this that things would be difficult... I feel like he's given up. (And no, there is no other woman.) He says he's not sure if he's still in love with me, but that he still loves me.... help?
2007-03-08 17:01:47 · 6 answers · asked by Dísir 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm currently 8 months pregnant, with about 40-some days left to go before I'm due.
2007-03-08 17:02:29 · update #1
When my ex-wife was pregnant with each of our four children, we had a terrible time communicating. Although I knew my wife was obviously having the hard job of having the babies, I was stressed out too, it was a big thing for me also, but no one else seemed to understand how it was affecting me- least of all my wife. Apparently alot of men are affected in this way when their partners are pregnant, so you're not alone.
Write him a letter, ask him to meet with you somewhere you can both talk without anyone else around. And ask him what things he is worried about at being a new dad, you will probably find that even though he's not the biological father, he has all the same stresses and worries that all new dads get. And in his case he maybe scared about loving a child he knows is not his own, when he still has some doubts with your relationship because of disagreements due to your hormones.
Whatever happens, ask him to come see the baby after she is born. And remember if you ask him to be dad to your child you must never use that against him or threaten to take that away from him. If you did that only once it would never be the same again.
Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.
2007-03-08 17:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by wonkyfella 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know pregnancy makes a woman hormonal and mood-swingy but darn girl what did you do to chase him away?
I think to get him back you have to demonstrate that you're taking your mood-issues seriously and have sought help.
At the same time, never chase a man who has left you.
Well, maybe focus on being strong and healthy for the baby, and do a little personality inventory along the way.
2007-03-09 01:06:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well:according to "Family Relationships is very important
yes you'd must have an talk with him personly because
that would be the best effort today get some Marriage
Counseling for it "
God Bless & Good Luck
2007-03-09 01:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a pre op of what you have to look forward to . Do not bother . If he loved you he would be there to support you . Do not learn the hard way . He won't change... Think of your child... Do you want her to love him then he leaves for someone eles?
2007-03-09 01:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by harlot j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about confessing all this to him. ask him what you need to do to make things right with him. ASK HIM what to do.
2007-03-09 01:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by tryinthis2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST STAY WHO U R NEVER CHASE LET THEM CHASE HE WILL COME AROUND
2007-03-09 01:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by TRACY R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋