My wife and I have recently separated, we still sleep in the same bed and sometimes even cuddle. I have asked if she is seeing someone and she says no. She has lied to me before as I knew that she was emotionally attached to someone while we were married and when I questioned it she said no( I read e-mails ) She now has become very close with her boss, she says they are good friends. Tonight we went for dinner, parent/teacher meeting and had a great night. Once she got to her car the first thing she did was call him. I know because I did the unthinkable, checked her phone. We were in bed, she was just falling asleep and I was holding her. She got 2 text messages at midnight and I didn't like it and left the bed. Even though we are "separated" it kills me because I want her. Am I being told the truth when I ask if she is seeing someone ? They talk all the time !!! Getting texts at midnight, is that normal ?
2007-03-08 16:53:45 · 7 answers · asked by pedro_penedro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are living in the same house because of our daughter.
2007-03-08 17:11:49 · update #1
When I first read your post, I automatically assumed she was seeing someone else. Whether she is being honest with you or not, I don't know but it seems a bit fishy. Nevertheless, if you are separated, she is actually allowed to see other people in most states, casually but not exclusively. Also, if you want to be with her- you are going to have to be a bit more forward with your feelings.
Is the relationship salvagable? If it is, express your feelings to her, explain your reasoning and how her story does not add up at times. If it were the other way around, for example if you were the one receiving text messages at midnight, playing phone tag with another female and then going home and cuddling up with her- would she understand?
2007-03-08 17:13:01 · answer #1 · answered by pinayschoolgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the word seeing may not be the meaning as dating or having relationship in her dictionary. So, you should use another word of what you really want to ask and make sure she understands your meaning. I know she does understand what you mean but she didn't think she is seeing someone. Perhaps, in her mind "i am not seeing someone, i am actually dating, or i am actually having relationship with someone, or i am having an affair with someone" so, she would say "no." that is possible. Why would she have to lie to you even you guys are separated??? Is she scared of you? Is she afraid of being quoted as a "cheater, bit*h"
You should ask her straight and get straight answer. for winning her back because you want her, then you should keep go slow. You should approach her like a boy approaches to a girl for the first time or a man approaches a woman for love for the first time. you should be patient with her. do romantic things. do something that she would like and that would touch her heart etc. if nothing works, then your only option is.....
Good Luck
2007-03-09 01:20:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men send a text message her at midnight aren't her friend. She is cheating on you while separate time.
Other guy is like "what's up?" while she is in bed with you. She does cheat on another guy too...
Would you take her again even she is going to cheat on you and another guy over and over?
It's not healthy relationship.
2007-03-09 01:10:15 · answer #3 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to say, but yes. it's not right for you guys to be living together if you're separated. and checking her phone, bad idea. never look unless you're prepared to find something! i know you want her, and i admire your ability to lay that for the world to know, but sometimes you have to let people go and venture on. people have to move on to get back to where they started. if it is meant to be, she'll come back to you. but you have to know in your heart that you will be ok. plenty of women in the world want a man like you that wants them. good luck! ;-)
2007-03-09 01:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by rubydoobydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
f uck no man thats not normal im not trying to hurt u but she probobly does like her boss its kinda werid becuase everybody hates there bosses and she texting him at midnight f uck no man shes lieing to u
2007-03-09 01:02:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like she is, but i would like to know why are you
to still staying together if you are separted. that something
that both of you need to really talk about if you are trying to
work things out that find. but if no, then time to on with
life.
2007-03-09 00:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she is cheating...
In the worst way...
Divorce her...
2007-03-09 00:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋