What are good reasons to be married instead of just living together?

Question

If you love, respect, and have trust for one another. If you do NOT want children together and all legal matters (owning a house etc..)can be taken care of. If you can financially take care of yourself. What would be different about a good relationship if you marry?

Answer 1

It comes down to commitment to one person. You can open up a whole world of unconditional love. You can learn life lessons together. When your not married it's easy to walk away when things get tough. When your married you search for solutions to problems and work it out. Having a good relationship with a roommate sounds temporary. It's about taking a chance, living life to it's fullest with another.

Answer 2

Being happily married for almost 37 yrs., I must confess that I don't understand why people have such issues with the idea of "marriage."

What is really significant is the quality of the relationship; in other words, whether there is a sufficient amount of respect, compromise, forgiveness, and patience.

If there is, then the relationship will survive, whether you're married or just living together.

So, if someone is telling me that they believe they have a solid relationship that will survive in the long run, exactly what is the issue with marriage?

If you're committed...then you're committed. You're not "leaving the back door open" so you can bail at the first sign of trouble or difficulty.

If someone is nervous about marriage only because they might lose "half of their stuff," I think that's rather lame. Then, I think they shouldn't consider any kind of relationship, because they're not sure it'll survive. It's a matter of trust. Either they don't trust their own personality, or the other person's.

And finally, life is one big gamble anyway. You lay down your heart and you take your chances like everyone else.

How in the world can people be so nervous about gambling with their heart, but millions have absolutely NO problem going to casinos and gambling with their life's savings?

Answer 3

Imagine if you will, you make a promise to buy something like house with no contract, then after 10 years of paying on it the owner dies and the children want it back, what do you think will happen?

In a marriage, you promise to build your lives together, but what happens if you split up? All the work and effort you put into the relationship is now gone. How do you split the assets of your years together?

A piece of paper doesn't make a marriage, it's two people who love and respect each other that does that. What happens in many marriages today is that someone in the relationship thinks that because of a piece of paper they now own a new piece of property, and there goes the respect.

Answer 4

Probably the biggest difference would be "respectability." You're right, being married is no gurantee that you'll have a successful marriage. Over 50% of all marriages end in divorce in the first five years. Various reasons for getting married: unplanned pregnancies, rich spouse, greed and more.

In other countries, unmarried couples living together or having kids too is perfectly acceptable. Which shows how far behind sexually the U.S. is. If you're with someone , are you with them because you want to be? Or are you there because someone says you should? At the end of the day you live with the consequences of your actions and not them. So you decide and be happy.

Answer 5

How about getting married proves to each other that you have enough true love that you have no fear of lifetime commitment and you are willing to stand before your family, your friends, and God to swear to that until death do you part. It is the most romantic thing you can do for the lifelong partner you have chosen. I guess no one really believes in romance anymore. Maybe that's why it's so easy for couples to bring infidelity into marriages causing divorce. It's easy to say we had great sex, but to say he made love to me like you would not believe puts all new meaning in a long lasting marriage. With the high number of divorces I don't believe many people know what love is. Good Luck with just living together. I had the financial security when I met my wife(she had the clothes on her back) and I wouldn't settle for anything less than marriage because I wanted a wife not a live in partner - I loved her too much for that!

Answer 6

I'am married only 7 years,,,at 36 decided to marry, the man of my dreams,,this was in the begining of course,,we do not want children, neither of us, and just went for it,,no reason other then the fact that was a hell of a party,,our friends did not think it would last,,has been a rough road,,but am going to stick it out,,life is short and we are getting older,,being alone in your 60's was not what I wanted ,after playing the field most of my life, was time to settle down. Met this fella in the local pub, where I worked,,and was from outa town,,when he came back to town, a year later ,to work,,the first place he came was to the pub to see if I still worked there,,I did,,and was excited to see him walk through the door..we never comunicated for a year, but both thought of each other often,,telling our friends that we had met this person,when he decided to stay in the town where I lived,,I asked him to move in with me,,well we fought alot,,and I wanted to know if was worth it,,wanted some kind of commitment,,thinking of a ring,,he thought marriage,,I never thought I would be married ever,as never really had many boyfriends,,just friends,,am chunky so no man really wanted me for a girlfriend,,when this man came, back just to see me,,well I new there was something there,,a feeling that you only feel once in life time,,this guy was a keeper because he really liked me for me,,not my looks,,so we got married,,small town,,had a hell of a wedding,,nothing fantsay,,just friends at the local legion,,made it legit,,,and we are still married,,just a feeling of the commitment made it worth while,,for no reason,,just did it,,bought a house together,,and now we have someone to get old with,,the both of us were lost souls till we met..So there is my story in a nut shell,,hope you might find your reason in there somewhere,,but if it feels right, then do it ,,you don't need a reason,,and never listen to anyone else,,only your heart,,it will quide you,,good luck .

Answer 7

There is no reason to for a man, but for a woman it's a guaranteed income for at least 18 years.

For the modern American male, American marriage is like playing Russian roulette with a semi-automatic.

Why? Because the term “starter husband” has now become a common term where a woman will get married and have at least one child so she gets children and a guaranteed income at the expense of any sucker who will fall for it, and then she is free to divorce him, have sex with whomever she wants, and drag the kids through one failed relationship to the next all the while marginalizing the starter husband out of her children’s lives.

Do you think that’s the exception? Guess again.
The ugly truth is that more than often than not, marriages will end in divorce. Over 90% will be initiated by the woman. The man will get raked over in family court. She will get the house, the kids, 40-60% of their assets, and more than half of his disposable take home income for the next 18 years. He will see his kids 2 out of 14 days (he is lucky if she doesn't level unsubstantiated "abuse" claims – a death sentence for men that requires no substantiation whatsoever). If he loses his job due to illness or downsizing, the State will toss him in jail. While jailed the arrearage will grow and the state will charge interest. The State will revoke his driver's and professional licenses, make him virtually unemployable.
Women love to carry on about how men are afraid to commit. The real problem is that women are all to willing to bail for any reason or none at all, thanks to "no-fault" divorce. Worse, there is financial incentive for her to divorce, since she gets all the spoils of war, and her income is now guaranteed, if not by the father, then by the state. Her income is fixed at his highest level of pay. God forbid when the American economy takes a dive and most of the men are still required to pay at the level of imputed income (what they “should” be able to make) when they genuinely cannot find a job. In marriage, both the husband and wife endure the pain of temporary hardship. In divorce, only men and children suffer; not the women.
If you were to take up sky-diving, and the instructor informed you that more than half of the parachutes were defective, would you still jump? Not on your life. And only the dumbest of American men have not come to terms with this fact. But one way or another, they will.
Meanwhile, the men's Marriage Strike is alive and well, thank you. Up to 30% of eligible males, now, and growing.
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Answer 8

Well, all practical concerns aside - I like the "officiality" of marriage. I want to have a "husband", not a "boyfriend"; and I want to be a "wife", not a "girlfriend". Socially, it takes a relationship to a whole new stage; and, like it or not, we all live in society. But practical benefits are a huge bonus, too - like sharing health insurance, car insurance, saving money on taxes, etc.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

If you are not married and your partner is in a terrible car accident, you are not considered next of kin. Unless specific power of attorney documents have been drawn up, you have no more right to make decisions about medical treatment than a random stranger.