Can you ever hate someone soo much that at the end you end up loving him/her?

Question

Do you know anybody that hated someone with all their power, but at the end ended up being together? And how can work? And if it does why?

Can the type of love that starts from hatred be stronger than the one that starts out as "pure" love?
Sorry its hard to put it in words. ^_^

Can the type of love that starts from hatred be stronger than the one that starts out as "pure" love?
Sorry its hard to put it in words. 愛

Answer 1

It seems that you buy into the old program that love and hate are opposites. You prob also believe that light and darknes also are opposites. This type of thinking is on its way out because it no longer serves man well. Actually it never did.
Love is energy. When it flows through us towards someone it feels good. When it does not flow in this way, the good feeling does not exist and it is called indifference. When one hates someone, there is also energy. It is different, it is negative. Remove the hatred, make it non-existant, and we are back to indifference. It is like either you care in some way about a person or you don't. The basic reasoning to this question is the same law that applies to everything in this universe. The fact that people are smartening up to this law is going to change the whole world. It is called the law of attraction. The reason we have forgotten about it is due to programming. That way people can continue to be slaves of the few who control the world. Children, who because of their young age are less programmed, are more natural, exhibit more of this transformation of negative emotion than adults do. You see it all the time in elementary school. Two boys hate each other (they are hurting emotionally), they have a fight (can be physical or not), and then become best friends.
People will learn to love, not to fall in love mechanically, but to love consciously, or else.

Answer 2

When people purport to hate what they love (like the homophobe who is gay) its because they hate themselves.
Hatred and love have nothing to do with each other except a sort of obsession, where one person becomes the focus of a lot of your energy. But I've never met anyone who truly hated a person and later fell in love with them. More often they were distrurbed by that person's effect on them, or hated how out of control that person made them feel and so pretended to hate that person. But love does not really spring from hatred...that's a literary conceit.

Answer 3

I agree, it's easier than some people think. Whether it's love or hate, essentially it is strong emotion. The attraction and the attachment come from powerful feelings. I don't know the name of it, but there are theories and observations about how victims love their abusers as a way to cope with reality. It's a defense mechanism.

I once dated a woman who initially repulsed me to the point a got a strange feeling, the ughh! feeling in the pit of my stomach when I saw her the first couple of times. Everything about her said phony, phony, phony. Overtime, and one Christmas party and fifth of Crown Royal later, my feelings started to change. She was too powerful for me - I fell in lust.

Answer 4

That's a great question, it happened to me one time. I hated this guy at the office so much that I began to feel sorry for him, endeared toward him (pity, in a way). I'm not sure there's much wisdom to be extract from this experience other than after we hate for so long, if we're normal humans, we get tired of hating, and move along to some other emotion. Hate is bad medicine. It's fear in disguise. Avoid it.

Answer 5

Yes this is quiet true, back in 7th grade I was mean to this kid to no end I was cruel in 7th grade (I regret it all even still today) but I stopped being that way and actually matured and a year later, I fell in deep love with the boy and went out with him for 4 months, I ended it though, we were better off friends..

Answer 6

chances are they were in denial about their true feelings from the start.

hating someone takes a lot of energy.

if we truly hated them we would not give them another thought and erase them from our memories, why do we need them in our lives or thoughts if we hate them so.

we may say we hate them because we have a hard time to express are true feelings.

we may say hate when we mean disappoint, as chances are this is often the case.

Hate is probably one of the most over used and misused words and emotions in the universe.

Love all and let it be.

Answer 7

There is a very thin line between love and hate. You may think you hate someone, when actually they make you feel uncomfortable about yourself because you have deep emotions for them. All love is a gamble, and sometimes it pays off. Take a chance.

Answer 8

they say what you love or hate about someone is a mirror of what you like or dislike about your self so supposing you learn to love what you hate about yourself will intern take away what you despise about others leaving less insecurities giving a more open minded approach toward others . unless they did some thing morally wrong then that's a whole new subject with different evaluations

Answer 9

Thats not as uncommon as you would think. It all comes down to this.

The opposite of love isn't hate. The opposite of love is fear. Love and hate are more like brother and sister.

So yes a person can hate someone with all thier heart and then love that person with the same strength because it is just the same emotion.

Answer 10

Yes. This might sound odd but I hated Jesus with all my heart and guts and I told his followers so much trash and I marred his image so badly for God knows what reason...he never did anything to me. I broke into a million pieces and I asked for forgiveness. Now he's my best friend.