I'm gay and i have been on a relationship that lasted almost 7 years, it was just the best relationship ever. I think sex its not the most important thing of a relationship, its part of a relationship but know that i'm single again and dating i only meet guys that all they think about is sex. Sex its great but why do gay guys don't want more than just sex. Why its all bout dick and the more and the bigger is better. Size doesn't matter its all about the sexual connection that you have with your partner. Its anybody out there that agrees with me.
2007-03-08 16:26:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its not just gay guys. Us girls come across many straight men that only want one thing. But not everyone is like that. Look at the 7 year relationship you just had... He wanted more that sex. And I'm sure there is a lot of gay men out there that want the same things you do out of a relationship. Love, compassion, passion, understanding and trust. But most of all friendship. I suggest you try and spark a friendship with someone first. Only sleep with him when you consider him a good friend. And then you will realize that there is nothing more wonder ful than your lover being your best friend. Also If you don't want to sleep with him right away, and he walks away you would know he is not the best choice. Good luck, and don't worry, you will find that Mr Right for your!!!
2007-03-08 17:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by feel_like 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends where you are looking. As some of these answers show there is plenty of people out there who cans see beyond the superficial and want more out of a relationship. When you think about what causes the attraction between guys, why they decide to come together rather than just walk on by. Alot of the time it can be about sexual attraction, maybe it is a guy thing, but there is no denying it has to be there. Sometimes that sexual attraction will only develop once you've been friends, sometimes it might be the reason you get together in the first place and others things happen later or sometimes or it might be the only reason you get together. Different people want different things and it is striking that balance between having a good sexual relationship and having something more than sex to the relationship. It will work out for you, but to return to my earlier point it depends on where you are looking for love?
2007-03-09 02:31:23 · answer #2 · answered by waggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Sweetie when you get 2 guys together who are both really horny (unlike woman who tend to be less horny then men) they are more likely to be thinking with their penises rather then with their other heads and so sex comes into play! Even within the gay community I think that way more couples play with others then what happens in heterosexual relationships now I could be wrong about that because I don't know any heterosexuals who have admitted to this kind of activity within their relationship. But I know a lot of gay couples who say they are in 'open' relationships and have other coming into their relationships just for sex! I don't agree that this should be the way it is but it does seem to be that way! I do also think that there are some gay couples out there that are in monogamous relationships! Just my thoughts on it all. *hugs* JAC<
2007-03-09 01:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by jackaboo007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most gay guys base their relationships on sex because they simply don't feel it's important "NOW" to have a steady, loving relationship. Of course, by the time they believe themselves ready for such a relationship, they have nothing to base such a relationship but trivialities like SIZE and the sheer volume of sex one can have in a week's time. I'm like you - there's more to a relationship than the size of someones penis and how many times during 24 hours they can ejaculate. It's the soul connection that matters to me - how much of YOU do I get in return for me?
2007-03-10 22:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by dmspartan2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, this is an extremely generalised question and so far, the answers are all steriotypical. The steriotype image of gay sexuality is of the many "one nighters" and also that gay men do not have long lasting relationships that are monogomous. This is simply a steriotype and people need to be aware, that sexuality cannot possibly steriotyped. People are much more than their sexuality. Also, media representations of gay men do not show the men who are in long term monogomous relationships. Similiarily, there are messages fed to men, that in order to be considered "manly" that they have to appear to be not capable of long term monogomous relationships.
I beg to differ. I see people who are desperately seeking other men who want to be in long term monogomous relationships. I see gay men who are influenced by media messages and I also, see that people constantly regurgitate these messages and make them into "fact".
There are no "facts" to support that men have a higher sex drive than women. And there are no "facts" that support that gay men are not capable of having long term, stable, thrilling and loving relationships with other men.
I am in a long term relationship with my partner and I have never felt that he nor I, want to be in this relationship for the sex only. Granted, the sex is very thrilling and extremely passionate, but only because we are exclusive and take the time to appreciate and cherish each other.
So, I agree with you completely. Sex is only one part of life, and there are so many different kinds of sex, and so much more tthan sex as well.
2007-03-09 05:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by Orditz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it's not just gay guys - straight guys and bi guys are the same way. Men in general think about sex all the time. Every straight guy I meet who buys me dinner or a drink always has an ulterior motive - can you guess what it is? And that's all guys seem to ever want. It's a good thing I'm bi, so I can take a break from guys for awhile..
2007-03-09 03:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by cuteblondecrystal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
many hetero women have the same problem wih hetero men. guys tend to be all about sex.
2007-03-09 01:37:49 · answer #7 · answered by PDY 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To some shallow guys, sex is all there is.
2007-03-09 10:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋