I dated a guy for a couple of years. We had both recently gotten out of bad relationships. We had a child together and his drinking was too much for me to keep him around. I gave him another chance after 6 month sober and he had actually never stopped drinking. I have not seen him in 7 months this time, but I have kept tabs on him. He just got back with his ex, they do not have children together. This makes me very sad. I still do not want him for myself, due to he has proven to be unreliable at best. So, why does this break my heart?
2007-03-08 16:25:29 · 15 answers · asked by delilah r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The end of a relationship, regardless of how long it lasted, is like a "mini-death" and with death we are sad and go through a grieving process that includes feeling like having a broken heart. I do sympathize with you because I've worn similar shoes.
You did what was the best thing to do in your circumstance and I am supportive of you for it.
Let him and his memory go and begin looking for the right one for you. He IS out there, and the sooner you start healing and letting go of the former guy, the sooner the right one will come into your life, and you deserve to find that right one.
Concentrate on getting your own life together and learning what it is that you really need in your life. When you truly know what it is the time will be right for your own special guy to appear.
2007-03-08 16:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My apologies dear, but I really don't think you moved on. Coupled with the fact that you two have a child, there has to be a significant emotional attachment there. The way you stated your comment, I don't think he's a part of your baby's life, and that's probably hurting you even more. If his drinking is such an issue, however, you should count your blessings. I'm so sorry, but you're in such a tough spot. Just raise your son/daughter to the best of your abilities. Good luck to you.
2007-03-08 16:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by indieforcutie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
uBecause yo remember the good things about him that you had as opposed to the bad ones since they are not around you all the time which made you make the decision that you made in the first place to let him go.
Just know within yourself that you did what was best for you and then positive affirmation to say that it is best and you wish him well. Project how awful it would have been had you and he stayed together or him in worse shape with you.
Read the poem:
Now That’s Love
I know what love is like:
Truly loving someone is giving them the freedom to love you or not
Truly loving yourself is choosing to be someone who uses that freedom to love you
Yea, now that’s love
June 19, 2006 by Arene
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2007-03-08 16:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being sad because of the loss of what you WANTED your relationship to be. Unfortunately, it was only a fantasy. He's a loser !
You need to move on, stop the drama, and hope that you learned your lesson. I am much more concerned about your child. Teach them to be decent and strong by example. And if you have any other relationships, make sure that you USE PROTECTION ! ! !
Good luck !
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2007-03-08 16:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by Maewest 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just human, what can I say. I feel this way sometimes too after a break up, not right for me yet I miss them. Just remember, to be smart is to not make the same mistake twice or else you will be the fool. Also, think about what's best for your child.
2007-03-08 16:30:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because regardless if you don't want to be with that person doesn't mean that you don't have feelings for him. You made the decision to not be with him from your head, but it still hurts the heart even though you know that it is better not to be with him. Plus you see that he is moving on with his life and is looking like he is okay with the breakup. That maybe getting to you a little bit too.
2007-03-08 16:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by sdo3lg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand your feelings but really what are you missing? he's an alcoholic which brings on many more problems than the obvious. he not even doing better even though hes with someone else. matter of fact its with an ex. hes backtracking. you need someone who wants better for themselves. someone who wants to move up in life. your sad because there are some good qualities about this man that you miss. im the same way about my ex, but i had to think about my future if i stayed with him and it wasnt good. you would be in the same predicament. so i chose to move on and move up. i know it hurts like hell but you dont want to be miserable for the rest of your life. no child deserves to watch that either!
2007-03-08 16:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT HURTS trust me i know, i still miss my Ex from a year ago and she cheated on me. Your most likly sad becuase you are afraid to be alone and miss the confort he gave you, best advice is to find someone new to replace that lost comfort. Hope you be happy> :)
2007-03-08 16:31:09 · answer #8 · answered by Ikemike 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just because you don't want him back, does ot mean you still don't care. you show that you are a caring person. and wants him to be happy. and you forgive others easily. but you need to stop watching and keeping up with what he is doing with his life. and move on with yours. good luck.
2007-03-08 16:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you wanted him to be miserable without you.
forget it and move on. you have your own life to live STOP KEEPING TABS ON HIM!!!
2007-03-08 16:28:27 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋