I AM 13 aND i WANNA hAVE A bABY I WANT SUM ADVICE pLZ !?

Answer 1

Get a puppy.

Answer 2

I know that when you decide that you want a baby your mind is really made up no matter what anyone says but maybe just look at it from this way a child deserves a mother and father don't get me wrong doesn't need but deserves one and at a young age it's not likely that you stay with the same boyfriend for the rest of your lives and that's because everyone changes you don't stay the same for the rest of your lives and you will most likely grow but grow apart as well another thing is you will you say you won't now but you will kind of resent the baby for changing your life and blocking so many opportunities from you any parent wants the best for their child and at 13 how will you provide it you can't even work yet because child labor laws and welfare won't make the cut that money won't really last the month believe me I grew up in that life it's not worth it now wait a couple of years finish school get a job meet someone you can't live without get married and then have kids you will be happier and the baby will live a good life right now you're being a little selfish think about how the babies life would be

Answer 3

First, a question for you to consider, "Why do you want to have a baby?" That is something very important for you to consider.

The advice I would give you is not to even begin having sex at this point in your life. Enjoy being a child, then when you know what being a child is about be an adult. When you are an adult get your feet on the ground, prepare your life and sort it out so that you can be the best parent you can be for the child. A child deserves the best one can give it.

This is not intended to discourage you from having a child but to encourage you to wait until you are able to give the child you bring into the world the love the support and the care it needs.

Babies and children are not brought into the world to fill the voids in our lives or to give us love. Parents are there to fill the child's voids and to make them whole. I once heard that children were like empty bucket always needing to be fill with something. I have found that to be very true. Consider well why you want to have a baby. Once you have them they are yours until they are eighteen. They are really your responsibility for the rest of your life If it is a good relationship.

Answer 4

While it's perfectly natural for young girls to feel a maternal instinct, my advice is DON'T. Reason being you're not old enough to have a job and support the baby, so your parents would end up raising it. That's not fair to them or the baby.

The best thing to do is keep your want for a baby in mind and continue to go to school and get an education so that you can provide for this baby financially and emotionally when the time is right. Use this time, as in, at least the next five years, to prepare yourself to be the best mom possible! At this time your body, mind, and life are not ready for the responsibilites of a child, but you can prepare yourself as you work toward this goal! Get an education, get to know yourself, and find a partner who will support you (trust me, sweetie, no man who will sleep with a 13 year old falls into that category)...and then your life will be ready for that beautiful baby! Also, you can babysit or work at a daycare or church nursery to prepare yourself for caring for your child. Just remember that you have plenty of time to do this, and the more you prepare the better life you and your baby will have.

Just wait it out, dear, and make sure to give you and your baby the best life possible by being educated, financially stable, mature (physically and mentally), and in a stable relationship, preferbly marriage, because your baby will need a daddy! Best of luck, and keep up that love of babies! Just admire them from a distance for now! :)

Answer 5

You're way to young to support yourself and a baby. Think of this, you're your parents little girl, you're going to let them down by getting preganat so early.

Also, you're body is not mature enough for children. You will have lots of chances of complications, or even death situations when it comes time for delivery.

Another thing, little 15 year old Johnny from school isn't going to want to have sex with you if your intentions are children. The baby most likely, will be fatherless.

Also, a baby is exciting, and it takes a lot of responsibility, you might have to drop out of school and get a GED just because your baby will take up that much of your time.

A lot of people your age would make fun of you. Because you'll be typical trash then.

Your baby is for life. You can't have a baby for six months, get bored, and get rid of it. That's un-moral, and idiotic.

My best suggestion is to WAIT.

Wait, wait, wait, wait.

Give yourself a chance to enjoy your teenage years. Come 18, if you still want a baby, and have a devoted partner who wants the same, then go for it. But until then, no go.

Don't be an idiot, be intelligent, you have a long life ahead of you, why throw away the best years of your life?

Answer 6

Honestly as joyful as it is being a parent, it is not as easy as you may think.

Babies cost a LOT of money, time (not enough), sleep (lack of) and freedom to socialise, (as we would normally do), huge stress levels, with dealing with young children. Finding day care is hard enough, but to find a decent baby sitter who will not abuse your baby, is equally harder.

Given your age your body believe it or not, is NOT fully grown and the stress of being pregnant may cause some health problems, which you need to keep in mind. If you do become pregnant you have to have regular medical check up, (more money) to ensure babies and your health.

How do you propose to support yourself and baby, and where will you live? The Government will only give you the minimal amount, making it difficult to make ends met. Thus creating you more stress.

Please think carefully before putting your health and well being into jeopardy, just for the sake of having a baby.

Try to concentrate on your education, and find a job, put some money into the bank, then think about having a baby. This way you will be an adult, and you can do as you please, at the moment, your still a minor, therefore under the care of your parents/guardian.

Answer 7

Why at the age of 13 do you want a baby? Do you have any idea of what having a baby and raising a child involves? No you don't. Heck, I'm 35 and I don't...which is why I don't have kids.

My advice to you is this...if you feel your parents dont love you or you want someone to love you, you need to talk to a counselor at school. A baby is NOT the way to go; you'll only make a bad situation worse.

Answer 8

My advice is to wait. I'm being serious here. Having a baby is all fun and games until you realize that YOU'RE the parent. You're going to have to endure those sleepless nights, you're going to have to get a job and support her, you're going to be responsible for anothers LIFE! At least finish high school. When you're 18, give it some more thought. You dont want to have a baby mess up your chances of getting into a good college and making something of yourself. Don't get me wrong, having babies is great...as long as you're 18 or older. Please do not have a baby at 13. I'm sorry to say this but you're just too young to have a baby right now.

Answer 9

Have you thought this through? How will you support your baby? They are very expensive. Diapers, clothes, food, childcare (you will have to go to school and work) and that's just the first year. Think about this. My husband and I have 2 children ages 9 and 10.
Average 2 week grocery bill - $350
Average spent replacing outgrown/wornout clothes per month - $150
Average spent on supplies for school and projects every month - $50
Average cost of basic needs (soap,deoderant,shampoo, etc...) - $75 per month (just for the kids)
Sports - $2000 per year per child.
Average cost of a meal at McDonald's for all 4 of us - $30, let's say you want to do that 2 times a month, that's $60
Add to that our housing costs, phone bill, electric bill, gas bill, travel expenses for work, childcare expenses, dentist appointments, medication when they get sick, cell phone so I can always be reached in an emergency etc... The list really is endless.
My husband and I are in our 30's and make really good money. You are not old enough to live on your own and you are not ready to support a child. Be fair to your future offspring and get your education so you can get a decent job and support your baby. I too wanted a child at your age, but I knew that I couldn't support or care for a child so I waited. No one told me too, I just knew I wanted better for my kids than I could give them then. This is just the financial stuff.
What about your parents? They would likely be very upset if they knew about this. What about a Daddy for your child? Don't you think your child deserves to have both parents? Even if they aren't together, they can still be supportive emotionally and financially of this child. How do you think the guy in your life would handle this? If he's even close to your age, he's not ready either.
There are so many things to cosider. This really is just the tip of the iceberg. You really should wait until you have a logical answers to all these questions and all the rest of them before you even think about motherhood.

Answer 10

I am 20 and I had a baby a month ago. It takes a lot of time. You don't really get to do anything you wanna do unless you find a babysitter. But don't let anyone tell u what to do. Either way you will do what you want to. But you wanted advice I would wait because you will miss out on being a kid.

Answer 11

So yeah, noo... No. No.

My advice to you it to satisfy you want to be with children by babysitting. Babysitting infants may help you understand how intense children can be. But you have to realize that if you're being a good parent, you can never get to leave this other being alone for the next approximately 20 years of your life. And it is best to have a life partner to help raise the chld, and at 13 I'm not sure who will commit, or be willing to be fair to you if they are older.

At 13 this is will end up being you're parents child cause you dont have the resources to raise it.