One of my friends, who has an excellent sense of intuition, told me earlier this week that he found out that in spite of him making so many good new friends @ college, there are a notable amount of kids on campus who think he is a creep. to make matters worse, he found out that the reason he couldn't make friends earlier (all the way back to 3rd and 4th grade) was because even then kids thought he was a creep.
He then recorded some phone calls and recorded some online conversations and showed them to me. Sure enough, he wasn't paranoid, kids have.... always thought he's been a creep (not weird or strange, but creepy). The thing is he hasn't done anything stalker-like or disturbing, he just watches out for people and has helped quite a few get out of some tight spots, regardless of if they knew him well or not (which was candidly and clearly confirmed as well).
He also has a fundamentally charismatic, personable, and enjoyable personality, and gets out a lot. How can I help him?
2007-03-08 15:57:45 · 3 answers · asked by Mikey C 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The missing piece is that sometimes when he tries to help people, they get scared and he's insistent to the point that they have to yell at him or report him to get him to stop. He's well-intentioned and all and he's never hurt anyone. There's no reason to not believe him since I've been to parties where he keeps people (girls and guys) from getting taken advantage of.
His problem is that he wants to give up. He says he's sick and tired of working for anything because no matter what, he either gets treated like a floormat or he just doesn't get respect from everyone he deserves it from.
Frankly, I dunno how to approach him about this without asking him if he's suicidal. He doesn't seem self-destructive and I don't wanna get him in the bind of having to see someone for no reason.
2007-03-08 17:13:00 · update #1
People fear what they dont know. I know guys like this & we all have our moments but I agree something has to be missing.
2007-03-08 16:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by mas8baller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does something to creep people out. People don't just get creeped out for no reason.
Your description of him is a little creepy to me as well. He records phone conversations and IM's?
Oh well, maybe its that whole intuition thing. Does he just go up to people and tell them things that they dont want to hear?
***Okay, thank you for the missing piece***
What you should ask your friend is "why he feels needs to help the world?"
Is this his way of making friends? Does he have any other ways of showing that he is a value to others? Is helping someone the only way he knows how to feel good about himself?
It's good that he wants to help others, but why doesnt he understand when people say that they are okay. It's one thing to take car keys away from someone when they are drunk it's another matter to help someone in chem class when they say that they dont want the help. Your friend seems to be missing the ability to differentiate between the two ways of helping people.
2007-03-09 00:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a piece missing to this puzzle.
2007-03-09 00:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋