how do women look at divorced men?

Question

I recently got divorced and am trying to move on.I live in a very small town.My ex wife and I are very well known.Everybody knows how she used and hurt me.I tried to be a man about things and was there for her even after the divorce.How do you think other women look at me now,even maybe her girlfriends.I loved that girl with all my heart.

Answer 1

If I were you I would not worry about how women would look at you. Keep your chin up and move on with your life now. Start to heal and get past this and you will be a better man and person for it. Start dating slowly later on down the road and be happy. Good luck to you. In a small town they may even look at her a little funny so dont feel bad about things.

Answer 2

After 15 years of marriage, my "Christian" ex left for the trombone player - so I know about being used and about gold diggers.

The ugly truth is that more than 65% of marriages will end in divorce. Nearly 3 out of 4 will be initiated by the woman. The man will get raked over in family court. He will lose the house. He will see his kids 2 out of 14 days (if the ex doesn't level unsubstantiated "abuse" claims.) He will be forced to hand over 40-50% of his take-home pay. If he loses his job due to illness or downsizing, the State will toss him in jail. While jailed the arrearage will grow and the state will charge interest. The State will revoke his driver's and professional licenses, make him virtually unemployable.

So what difference does it make what anyone else thinks? Get out. Travel a bit. You've got to get out of this country a bit before you see what women are like who are actually feminine and enjoy being women, and appreiciate the fact that you're a man. It will take a few years to heal. But spend at least a few months outside U.S. borders. You will NOT be sorry!

If you were to take up sky-diving, and the instructor informed you that most of the parachutes were defective, would you take the plunge?

I'll stay single, thank you.

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Answer 3

Jerrod,it sounds like you are sad because you divorce your wife, don't you think its time for you to move on?/ Like what you said,you live in a small town and yet after the divorce you still living there.
You want to know how we look at a divorce man.....well I'm not sure what others might say,but I think its a sign of bravery,and a good move to start a new life. Try not to put yourself down, enjoy your new life cause you do deserve it...

Answer 4

Well, women have different opinion about divorce men. For me, in your case, I see you like a good 'ex-husband' coz you still care about your ex-wife whenever she needs you even she hurts you and used you.

Don't think about what other people say or think. You dont live because of them. If they say something I think its a good one coz of the way you treat your ex-wife.

You are right, you have to move on. Try to go out with your friends,try to go somewhere if you can just to get over her.

Im sure you will find another girl that will love you more and treasure you.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I don't think it will make anyone look at you badly if that is what your getting at. I am divorced myself and know what it is like. I am a women and no one looks at my ex badly. For the most part it is just nice to still be there for each other even though it didn't work and that scores brownie points everywhere. Don't worry so much. But stayin friends with an ex makes it really hard to move on. So keep that in mind, but get on with your life if you dwell in the past it will just make you depressed.

Answer 6

I fell in love with and married a man just like yourself. He was well known and a great guy that just had a wife that couldn't be his wife. She couldn't handle his working situation... but loved to spend his hard earned money on junk. She cost him everything... including an unborn child due to drugs. Due to what he went through with her, he is one incredible husband to me... and I respect him for what he was able to overcome and learn from. I think that real women look at divorced men for who they are... whether they be John Smith or Bob Jones. If a woman judges you simply because you are divorced...before she ever gets to know you... you don't need her. The same would apply to a man who did the same to a divorced woman.

Answer 7

listen sweetheart, breakups and divorces are nasty either way you look at it. a women should never judge a man about this issue unless they know the whole story. you gave a breif description and i can say that i see you as a strong man that tried his hardest to keep something that just didn't want to be kept. you took an oath and tried to stick with it. don't let that get you down. look to the future there's something and someone better waiting for you just give it a chance and don't expect it to come in two minuets from now, it takes time don't get irretated and frustrated, it'll come when you least expect it. cheer up :)

Answer 8

If I were one of the women in your small town I'd know you were truly a man as I'm sure they do. As far as her girlfriends go, remember they've heard what she has had to say and most likely it's been fabricated. If they've seen the true situation, they probably think she is crazy for giving you up. Don't let her ruin you for other women, stay one of the few nice guys!

Answer 9

While I can't speak on behalf of all women, I wouldn't think differently of a divorced man. Unless I found it to be true, I wouldn't see him as unstable or uncaring. A man could be loyal and loving, and if he marries the wrong woman, it shouldn't reflect badly upon him. If you are willing to move on (In time, ofcourse..), I think you should continue dating until you find the woman who makes you truly happy.

Answer 10

Depends on the woman....I have been divorced,and I would prefer a divorced man,because we would have that in common,however it also depends on the situation in your case it sounds like you still have drama,you would only be apealing if you were completely disconected,and healed...you sound to be still wounded,(which is a drama alert)...divorce is sad,and hurtful,give yourself time to heal before you move on...women will still find you attractive,but only if you are truly available...mentaly and emotionally...