Any girls out there who are pole dancing please answer.?

Question

I am taking pole dancing classes behind my boyfriends back. I told him I wanted to do it and I think it will benefit not only me but him as well. He doesn't know that I am taking pole dancing classes right now but I told him that I am going to start in April and he does not approve of it. By April I will be on level 2 and he will think I am just starting. I tryed showing him some of the moves I have already learned and he seemed to like them. ( I told him I was practicing on stop signs and I was learning off the internet.) But he still doesn't want to "expose me to that environment." The class is merely a fitness class where we do not take our clothes off and it is not sugar coated or anything. How do I tell him that everything is going to be ok and that it is going to benefit us both.
He says he wants to get me a brass pole when we move out but that he has never been to a strip club and that doesn't turn him on. I think it will when I learn the right moves.

Answer 1

i know this is a question for the ladies, but i think i can tell you what's going on in his head:

men are programmed to be attracted to women. human survival depended on men fathering lots of kids with lots of women, its genetics, and its encoded in our system.

as a man, he's probably always trying to make sure he's in control of his nature, and i know a lot of guys that DONT go to clubs like that, because if they get really turned on they wont be able to let it go. its like a wolf chasing a rabbit, its not the biggest meal, but THE CHALLENGE is almost more important to the hunter..... "can i capture this female? can i win her over?".

almost like an alcoholic who's afraid of beer number one, because he knows its the first step into something worse.
he might be the type that is afraid to step over the line into unknown territory because he doesnt know if he'll be able to stop. also, he might think that you'll be learning this in some room full of truckers that will try to have their way with you. and when guys think "pole dance", which doesnt sound so bad, they think "stripper", which means some chick taking it off for money and grinding on some dude's lap in a dark room.

do what you're doing, and when it's time to show him what you've learned, let him know you have no desire to be a stripper, and that no men have have seen you do this, and its just for him. he should feel better about it all after the fact. good luck!

Answer 2

You dont have to go to a strip club or even get turned on by pole dancing,. It is as form of art and exercise these days. . but if hes never been to a strip club then how does he know if that turns him on or not? but anyway., I realy wouldnt lie to him for the simple fact , when you lie it usually comes back to bite ya in the butt. Why dont you just print some info off of the internet about the class and leave it laying around for him to see it, to see if he gets used to it or if is open for discussion. And when you move out,you can get a pole from me at
http://www.stinkiepinkie.com/DancePoles.html
I sell my own line of poles.
Good Luck

Answer 3

These days pole dancing is big business and not just a sleazy thing that strippers do. My daughter has tried it for fitness and I know a person who teaches pole dancing and have known her since she was only 4 years old. She is a normal repectable person. Maybe take your boyfriend along to a class and let him see that the image he has is not the correct one. Let him see that it is a way of keeping fit.

Answer 4

I guess the only way you can really tell him it will be OK is to SHOW him after the fact. I have my own pole, it's stainless steel and a little too wide but still very fun none-the-less. It's hard to walk by it without doing a trick or just sorta spinning around it. Being able to go upside down is really an accomplishment, anyone who sees you doing advanced moves won't doubt your desire to be skilled AND sexy.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

If he doesn't want you doing it, then why does he want to get you a stripper pole?

He will love it, don't worry.

Answer 7

jesus.

do what you WANT to do.

why listen to your boyfriend, he doesnt control you or own you.

if he told you to stop eating, you would listen to him?

stand up for yourself and hell, if he isnt turned on by strip clubs like a regular heterosexual male, i be raising my eyebrow.

Answer 8

Need to take him to one so he can appreciate your new talents in proper perspective.