Engaged a year. He has been hanging out with his male friends almost every free waking minute since. I have invited him to go out with couples to dance, he won't go(says he only goes to those places to meet someone, he already has someone, but he doesn't mind if I go without him??) He won't go to movies, etc. This weekend they had a 'boys night out'. This hurt. he can go out with his friends but not me? I decided to go out also. Little did I know he was going to be where I decided to go. I went up and said hi and he completely ignored me. So, I went dancing with another guy. I came home when the club closed. He didn't come home until 6am and won't tell me where he was. We barley talked since. Then, I started telling him why I did it. (I was hurt he ignored me and I didn't expect to see him there he told me they were going somewhere else. I am also hurt he doesn't go anywhere with me.) He said 'I don't want to deal with you now.' and he said I should move out If. Did he ever care?
2007-03-08 15:41:55 · 9 answers · asked by Lexy2134 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I used to be in a relationship similar to this and it was bad news. Having boys night out sometimes is fine and healthy but being with the boys "every waking minute" is not. What also concerns me is that he wont go to the clubs with you because he "only does that to meet someone". Actually maybe your dating my ex(lol) because that's exactly what he used to say. Turns out he was cheating on me with multiple women. Leaving him was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I know it will hurt to leave him but you deserve much better treatment than what you have been.
2007-03-08 15:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by celticpixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he cared at one point or he would have never asked you to marry him. now i don't think he is ready now that he asked u i don't know under what pretense he asked u to marry him but maybe he got really scared after he asked u now it like he don't know how to take not be able top do what he wants. so i would just give him back his ring and tell him that if he can't do things with u and talk to u about the things he does then u know the marriage is not going anywhere and u will have more trouble after that. just get out while u can
good luck with everything u do.
2007-03-08 16:24:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry. It doesn't sound like you have a future with this guy. You need someone who treats you better. Try reading "The Rules." He hasn't been treating you right since you became engaged: this has been a long time coming.
2007-03-08 15:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. It maybe your fault because you went out with his male friends, it was late night. So yeah He lost cool about it...He probably broke TRUST in you. He would be OK if you went out with your girlfriends at midnight. I'm so sorry, don't call his male friends anymore. His male friends are his, not yours.
Would you let him go out with your girlfriends at very late night???
2007-03-08 15:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he was trying to get out of the relationshipship anyway,he never wanted to go out with you.I would just try and i know its hard but move on he's not even worth worryin about.I think he was waitin on you to mess up.
2007-03-08 15:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by lay lay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he cared before, but right now, I don't think so. Have some respect for yourself, and don't go out to call his attention, but to enjoy.
Put your life together, without him, and MOVE ON!!!
2007-03-08 15:47:12 · answer #6 · answered by PRLadyDama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged and already having problems like this, do not even consider getting married! I would just cut my losses and run.
2007-03-08 15:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Dadof3 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out,move on, it's over... the end
stop beating a dead horse it won't come back to life no matter how hard you beat it.
2007-03-08 15:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't say anything good about him....hmmm my question to you is...Is there any reason why you should stay?
2007-03-08 15:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by lata 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋