One of my biggest fears is being the friend who is taken for granted. I feel like when people need someone to talk to or need help they come to me and expect me to help them. I try to be a sensitive person and a person that people can come to with their problems but I feel that I am taken for granted. In addition, although I don't have direct proof, I have a gut feeling that my "friends" only want me around at certain times, like when they need help. I feel out of the loop. In the past I have been taken advantage of in relationships so I have tried to stop myself from investing in relationships but when I live like that I just don't feel alive. I know that any relationship is a risk but how do I respond if I may be getting taken.
2007-03-08 15:17:54 · 3 answers · asked by ILM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
these days its hard to find a true friend so if you have true friends hold on to them and dont let them go and try to make it work
2007-03-08 19:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Answerer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that at some point or another everyone feels like theyre being taken advantage of. who are you trying to respond to? if you like the people who are possibly using you and would like to be friends with them on a more sincere level why not bring it up lightly and ask them if they consider you a true friend, if they could trust you, etc. if the people who you believe are using you arent people you care to be friends with forget about them and find people who you can have real friendships with. you cant leave people out of your life because you have hunches about being used, i think you should be a little more open and try to speak to the people who are making you question their intentions. always invest in relationships, you never know who you are going to stumble upon!
2007-03-08 15:36:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend stands with you in good or bad. I have had "Friends" like this and found most often, that as long as they benefitted it was all good, but if they had to be the giver's, Forget it. These, by the way, are no longer friends. Find you a group of friends that are genuine. They will be there for you when the going gets tuff.
2007-03-08 15:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Justme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋