I don't know what's wrong. I'm NOT nervous, I think my boyfriend is extremely attractive and everything he does to me is GREAT! It's just that I can't orgasm through oral or sex. I find it hard to play with myself with him thrusting in and out... What are some tips or techniques to help me achive an orgasm?
2007-03-08 15:16:40 · 11 answers · asked by sugar_twilight 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
By the way, I can orgasm through masturbation just fine without any machinery help haha.
2007-03-08 15:25:17 · update #1
I have similar "problems". Try a vibrating bullet during intercourse because it will stimulate your clitoris. I cannot achieve orgasm by intercourse alone. Touching yourself during intercourse is a good method as well. Use KY warming liquid for the clitoral stimulation, and I think it is easier to touch yourself while he is in you if you are in doggie position, on your stomach, or on top.
I am trying to learn that me taking forever is okay and according to my husband, it is a challenge and so worth the time!
2007-03-08 22:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by crackermelons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would trying it on top. Put a pillow under him, it helps with the thrust, ya know more boom boom. Not only will he enjoy this but you might even have an orgasm before him. Believe me it was hard for me to finish for a while until my sister mentioned to try the pillow. Now it's like DAMN!!!!!!
2007-03-15 06:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by flosalabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you are just a little nervy or distracted by having someone else around? Try telling you want him to just relax and lay there, get on top of him and get youself off a couple of times. Once your body gets used to it it's a lot easier to do it with company. I guarantee your guy won't mind, he might find it a little hard to restrain himself, but he'll really enjoy the show—sometimes my bf asks me to do this for him just because he likes watching so much. Plus showing is sometimes easrier than teling, so he knows what I like :)
2007-03-08 15:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by kyla_bean 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi sweety,
Its normal for a woman not to have an orgasm. Just be glad you can have one while you are masterbating, I would suggest having your orgasm during foreplay and then have intercourse with your husband.
2007-03-08 15:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Elias 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first masturbate by yourself so you know what feels good to you. then try having sex on your side with him behind you this will make it easier for you to "play" with your self also try other types of stimulation to like playing with your nipples or moaning, maybe watching a porno, even try giving him oral, be up on your knees with your butt towards him then he can play with the puddin while you lick the lolly pop. also try having your man hold his penis and gently stroke your clit down to your vagina and just put the tip in keep repeating until right befor you *** then just go for it and watch the fireworks. they all work very well 4 me. you really just need to relax and enjoy.
p.s. if you have had any type of trauma like rape, molested, or any type of unpleasant sexual experience you have to work through that first. good luck
2007-03-08 15:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by sharebear80817 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You never mentioned if you can bring yourself to orgasm with the help of a vibrator or by self stimulation. If you can, you might have it sit aside and watch you, pleasure yourself until you feel like you are almost "there" then have him join in.
2007-03-08 15:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's doing it wrong, especially during oral. Theres no reason you shouldn't come if you do when you masturbate.
2016-10-13 04:03:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are putting alot of pressure on yourself, which is the fastest moodkiller.
It wasn't clear if you have had them before... Or if you have a toy or if you masturbate.
Try doing a mutual masturbation session with your boyfriend. There is alot less pressure & once you have one with him, i'm sure more will follow. : )
2007-03-08 15:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by JPC 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
are you guiding your bf as to what to do with his tongue when he is doing oral to you? is he fingering you and licking your clit at the same time? that may help.. my girl loves it that way and has a quick orgasm
2007-03-08 15:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by fred Flintstone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rub the bump above ur hole. It's the best!!! Or have ur guy lick it!!!!!! I'm not a lesbo but I think girls have attractive bodies. Try thinking about kinky stuff like naked girls or ur dude jackin off on ur tittys. Just think dirty.
2007-03-08 15:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋