work means more than making marrige work, her kids cant do no wrong and when i get on the kids for something iam the bad guy. been seperated for over 1 yr and to this day she still needs time,,,, but now says she does not luv me. but wants to stay close friends.. been trying to work with here on this but now when i call her she makes it sound like what the hell you calling me for, iam getting mixed signels from her
2007-03-08 15:15:08 · 18 answers · asked by bob f 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take it from someone that knows, if she says she don't love you anymore, it done. Why be with someone if they don't love you, there are way too many fish in the sea, to stay with her. Go use to the court house tomarrow morning and file for divorce. You never know, maybe if she see that you are tired of the bull sh*#, and are ready to move on, since she needs time (which usually means, she is seeing if there is something better out there, but she still keeping you hanging for backup, if she can't find someon) she will wisen up and she what a good thing she has and try to save the marriage.
2007-03-08 15:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by blebert2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same kind of situation. After several years since divorce, I want to remain good communication with the father of my kids. However, it's not healthy or possible to stay friends. It's hard to let go, but you will find out what you were missing out when you find someone who truly loves and cares about you. Good luck.
2007-03-08 23:19:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, Bob, it sounds like it's time to move on. Sounds like she's playing head games with you, more than likely you're the first person she calls when she needs something, huh? Don't be taken advantage of. Leave it behind and find some happiness, it's out there, believe me. Good luck dear!
2007-03-08 23:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is over. Clearly, she is done with you and wants nothing further from you. You need to move on. Are you legally separated or merely living apart? You need to get wise because this woman clearly will hurt you in court if you do not get proactive about the situation. Get a lawyer now. File for legal separation if you haven't already. File for divorce. Amass, if you can, any possible evidence that she was adulterous, abusive of the children, and/or caused harm to your good name, specifically by abusing your credit or finances. Since the children aren't yours, and hopefully you didn't do anything so foolish as to adopt them, then you aren't liable for child support. You have to get proactive and truthfully, somewhat vicious to ensure that this divorce goes the way you deserve. Who knows? You might even be able to motivate the court to make her PAY YOU some kind of settlement for all the mental abuse and heartache that she put you through.
As for her mixed signals, let's get this straight: to hell with them. She consistently chooses her kids over you. She treats you like a doormat. Then she delights in watching you suffer while she drags this separation out. Get tough; get your game face on; get a divorce; and get on with your life. Next time, you find yourself feeling foolish enough to waste time on getting married; hopefully, you will be wise enough from this experience to select a woman WITHOUT any children. You shouldn't have to support another man's mistakes. If you do find yourself tempted to marry a woman who has kids, then be sure to ask yourself one simple question: am I number one in her heart or number two? No one ever gets married because they want to be second place in someone's affections.
2007-03-09 12:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay away from her. be noticeably absent.
if she is truly only taking you for granted but really doesn't want it to end, she will realize the error of her ways.
if it truly is over, today is a good day to start learning to live without her.
either way, don't let yourself be abused or, taken advantage of, ever again. there are many women out there who would love to love someone such as yourself.
she sounds as though you have made it too easy for her for too long.
2007-03-08 23:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The classic I love you but not in love with you.
This means she is screwing somebody else already. When you called she probably had dudes hot dog way up in her. That's why she sounded upset.
You need to find yourself a hotty and get over this b330tch!
2007-03-08 23:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to as though It's over i think that maybe she's just to nice to cut you right out of her life. Do both you a favour and never call again. Good Luck
2007-03-08 23:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by tarakootenay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, dude. It's done. At least you don't have kids with her - thank your lucky stars!
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2007-03-09 00:40:23 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry.. but she didnt really mean stay friends she just didnt want to be mean to you......She doesnt want anything to do with you... To be frank move on... Dont call her dont go to her house dont text her make a new life of your own.
2007-03-08 23:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by chalebori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you need to move on. I'm married and believe divorce should be a last resort. but it takes two to make it work. for your sake you need to let her go and move on. a year seperation is a long time, too long. let her go.
2007-03-08 23:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋