I wish that I could be more social?

Question

In some of my classes it's just like I can't think of anything to say. I mean, in my second hour class I'm extremely talkative because I know a lot of the people... but in my 4th hour class I usually just sit at my desk and sometimes chat with the people around me. I think that it's because some of the people in that class intimidate me... there's a group of preppy guys that kind of run the class... but it hurts when I can't speak up and reach out to people because then they think that I'm some kind of depressed person or just really quiet ... but in truth i'm really fun and i wish that my classmates could know that. How can I talk more in that class?

Answer 1

There's nothing abnormal about that... yes, there are people who can strike up a conversation with total strangers, and the rest of us who need to feel comfortable with people before getting past the small talk.
In some situations, it's hard to break into the cliques (preppies, etc.) Just shrug it off. You've got your friends, so you're not a social outcast or anything. If some groups of people don't get into you, don't worry about it. Just be yourself.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you're talking about. my 1st hours both this year and last year were awful because I was in with a group of people that were in different grades that I didn't know and they all knew each other. I never really solved that problem, I just kinda did homework in that class and waited for my next hour to start. If you're in the same position and you don't have any friends in that class, just acquaintances, then I don't have any good advice. however, the school year is half-over!! I'll be watching the answers to this question because I want to know how to deal with this too. good luck!

Answer 3

Honestly I have the same problem sometimes. One thing I've done is made friends with the girls in my class that I didn't know. Being a guy, that really boosted my confidence. Yes, it was hard, but it payed off in the end. So try making friends with the preppy guys, or just other guys you think are cool.

Answer 4

I used to be like you back in the days. What I did was totally changed myself from outside. Change the hair, clothing, and got the make over. People do judge people from the way we look no matter what they say. I noticed by trying to make myself look better, I got some attention and gave me some confidence. Eventually, my really funny side came out and it changed everything.

Answer 5

You need to develop a strong confidence level so that no matter who you are around you feel good about yourself and you express who you are. There is no reason to feel intimidated, those kids are people just like you, who feel reluctant or hesitant just like you, they just don't show it. You already know that you are funny and talkative so show that and try not to think so much about what to say and just say what you feel.

Answer 6

i'm just like u. i only talk when other people talk to me first. and after that then i'm more comfortable with them.