MY husband will not try and please me with anything, sex relationship stuff, anything. I do all kinds of stuf for him but get nothing in return? What do I do???
2007-03-08 15:05:05 · 21 answers · asked by coolgirl2430 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Trade him in for a new husband...
2007-03-09 19:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, this has nothing to do with your husband and everything to do with you. First of all, you are expecting things in return. I know it's what most people do, but in marriage, you learn not to expect. If you do, you'll always be disappointed. The other thing I noticed is that you are doing all these things for him...but why? To get something back out of it, or because you want to do these things? There is a big difference sweetie. Doing them hoping to get some sort of a response to reassure you that he loves you means the relationship is lacking much more than the immediate gratification you are seeking. It lacks intimacy, desire, communication and the feeling of being loved. I wish I had better news for you, but you have to work on these things first. Otherwise you'll find him going through the motions so you stop complaining and you'll still continue to complain because the feeling of being loved you need isn't there.
You were smart to notice there was a problem, you just thought you had a different problem than what you actually do. Sit down with him, explain what really pangs you. Be honest with him, and be honest with yourself. Then take baby steps from there. It's a slow process, but if you want back the man he once was, you are going to have to start being the woman you once were.
I wish you well
2007-03-08 23:20:55 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Y Darb
Read your 2 questions and if the questions are related, there are some medical issues involved !!!
Before you do anything, talk with your husband and get him to agree to see a doctor, AND GO WITH HIM! It will be difficult but if he’s taking medications for a brain injury there are a plethora of issues involved neither of you have any knowledge of!! You need to be able to give your input during the Dr.’s visit.
Rule out ALL medical issues first. Then tackle the brain damage issue. See a very good Dr. who both of you can talk with. You said he wasn’t this way before???… there’s very possibly issues here girl he can’t control and doesn’t realize !!
DON’T give up !! Get medical help first !! OK??
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2007-03-08 23:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by logicalanswer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might be turned off, by all that you do. Try just being you, fresh, clean, and nice smelling. Other then that, what you have been doing is not working so what have you got to lose ?? Try cleaning up your act.~~~~Ha
I use to turn off my husband by coming on to strong. Crazy as it sounds, that's what he told me.Made me so mad at the time.
Could that be the problem?? Good luck to y'all~~~~~Jill
2007-03-08 23:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop doing stuff for him or break up it sounds like you are in a bad relationship
2007-03-08 23:07:49 · answer #5 · answered by iseemen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had this problem with my bf.
Just honestly tell him nicley how you are feeling. My bf made a complete 360 after i told him.
2007-03-08 23:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by shalini s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and him need to have a sit down and try to talk to him and if that don't work then get back at me cause I have some tricks up my sleeve that will make him come around! good luck!!!!!!!!
2007-03-08 23:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by lovely_lightskin 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it and let him what you expect to see if he's even concerned. If this don't work, then let him know what will happen if things don't change in time.
2007-03-08 23:10:55 · answer #8 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find some one that will please you in all the right ways, or try talking with him about it. Tell him what you want or would like. Good luck.
2007-03-08 23:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about this,that you are not happy,if nothing improves,you need to stop satisfying him maybe he will learn his lesson and straighten up.
2007-03-08 23:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by TH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋