i just had big fight with my mom last nite... its too way long story... also my fiancee and my mom dont talk eachother anymore.... but my mom wanna say sorry to him again and he dont wanna come over my house cause of my mom..and my mom is mad at him i dont understand i told her im 20yrs old and i love my fiancee.. she upset and think i pick over my fiancee than my mom. i told her im happy with my fiancee. and i dont wanna fight and i wanna be with him.and she kept telling me that dont like my fiancee's parents cause my mom think his father is werido... but my mom and my fiancee's parents dont get along.. me and my fiancee are really love eachother.. i love him alots... my mom is upset cause i wont leaving him... and she told me that if i see my fiancee again she will not talk to me no more...but i told her im 20years old i wanna be with him and im happy be with him... and i dont know what can i do with my mom..pls help me.... i know my mom is sometime crazy...help me pls!!!!!!!!!!!! ty
2007-03-08 14:46:24 · 7 answers · asked by XxItalianxX 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
and my mom is really sick!!! i dont wanna make problem :( she told me she try make everything easier for me but she refused talk to my fiancee's father ever!....:( she wont be there if im getting married if his father were there she wont come!!! :( pls help i need help!!! thanksssss
2007-03-08 14:48:16 · update #1
Ask your mother exactly what is weird about your fiance's father. Why is she so angry with your fiance? Has he done bad things to you and she is not pleased with him? If so, then maybe you should listen to her. It would be good to know some more. In the end, you will have to decide if you love your fiance enough to marry him without your mother's ok. When she is calm and in a good mood talk to her. Tell her that you love this young man and you want her to be happy for you. Tell her that you love her very much and you would not turn your back on her. She will always be your mother but you have to make your own life and you are still going to need her. Don't hurry to get married since you are only 20. Maybe your mother knows something that you are too young to see.
2007-03-08 14:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me tell you what I told my friend in about the exact situation. Well, your momma loves you very much and I think she fears you getting into a decision that might get you in trouble. Getting married is a big step and you certainly have to be ready. It's also up to mom to she loves you and your her baby girl and she wants the best for you. Try to understand where she's coming from. Maybe she'll come around.
2007-03-08 22:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Evan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are twenty! Take your fiancee to the courthouse and get married with or without your parents or his parents. Do it quickly, simply, and at very little cost. Then take him home to your mom and introduce him as your husband and have him take you to his folks home and introduce you as his wife. Everyone who can get along peaceably for three hours should be invited to your local lounge for figure food and champagne! The rest is just too much drama.
2007-03-08 22:55:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when we write things down instead of talking them out, our true feelings come out and the spontinatity of hurtfull words and remarks we wish we could take back doesn't happen...i mean sit down write your mom a letter......tell her exactly how you feel and that you are 20 and you appreciate and understand why she is so protective of you....but this is your life......as long as your fiance is a good guy she should understand.....they always say you marry the family when you get married...but remember the only one you crawl in bed with at night that truely matters is your partner......tell your mom you will love her no matter what she decides but you hope she decides to stay in your life and watch you grow....good luck...
2007-03-08 22:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by snickersmomma5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say love who you want to, if you mom reason for not like your fiance or his parents isn't just, then I dont think your mom is very mature. She is acting like a child, and I say if you want to get married to him do it. it would just suck if your mom turns out right, but she is being very immature and unfair to you.
2007-03-08 22:53:03 · answer #5 · answered by pistolero_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calmly sit down with you mom, tell her that you'll always care for her and you're not choosing sides.
but it is your life and you choose to marry this guy so it would mean a great deal to you if she would respect that and just be happy for you.
2007-03-08 22:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by gypse76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take your bf and your mom somewhere for a day
2007-03-08 22:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by sombody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋