Why do some Lesbians seem to dislike or even hate straight men?

Question

I must preface this by saying I am not trying to offend anyone, so no need for nasty responses. I have a coworker who is a lesbian and has taken the masculane role. I try to treat her with the same respect I give any of the other women in our office. We recently had a run in when I tried to open the door for her as we were leaving the office at the same time... To be honest, I did it is without regard to her being a lesbian, but simply that she was a woman... She had some sharp words, and we have not spoken since. It sucks as we do work in the same space. The way she avoids me is almost comical (no offense intended)... In a related incident. I was in a Club a few months ago. I tried to approach a woman only to find out that the woman standing next to her was her lover... The woman acted like I disrespected her, and should have known. And this was a "straight" club... I just dont understand it, not every straight guy is the enemy, or a basher...

Answer 1

mabey they dont like someone being more
"manly" than them?

Answer 2

Maybe she's been hurt by or has a reason to distrust straight men. Maybe she sees men as dogs and scoundrels because that's all she's had the displeasure of knowing. There are several reasons why people act the way they do. As far as the two ladies in the club. Can you blame her for not wanting you to hit on her girlfriend? Wouldn't you be? Granted, they were in a straight club, and you had no way of knowing that they were together, but when the situation arose, she didn't take the time to think about these things. All she saw was that you were pushing up on her girl, plain and simple. Just as those women need to take the time to consider your side of things, you have to consider theirs.

Answer 3

Maybe not every man IS the enemy,but alot ARE. I'm bi,and only tolerate men. Perhaps this woman,like alot of other straight,les and bi women,had a terrible incident/s with a man in the past,and can't let go. I've had horrible things happen that I could tell you,at the hands of men. Are women perfect? NO,but most women CARE a little more about people in general. There's a handful of men I tolerate,the rest could drop off the face of the earth,and I really wouldn't even notice,in fact,I'd be happy about it. If she's ignoring you,then ignore her. She doesn't pay your bills,or sleep with you,so,what do you care what she thinks?

Answer 4

I don't see how anyone could like straight men.. but I guess that's because I was harrassed, tortured, and beat up by them for so many years. I'm a little bitter. Maybe lesbians are too. Or maybe they've just gotten tired of the teasing.. "Lesbians are hot" .. "Can I watch?" .. "I love girl on girl action!" That gets old when you've heard it from every straight man alive.

Answer 5

Because there are many, MANY straight men -- some of them troll here -- who think that they have the right to sexually harass lesbians; who think that "the right dlck" will "cure" a lesbian, who are, basically, resentful as hell that there exist in the world women who DO NOT NEED MEN.

A woman who actually hates men generally does have a good reason. And a lot of us get damned tired of having to deal with male privilege and worry about the supposedly delicate male ego when arrogant and ill-mannered men have no hesitation about offending us.

If you are a gentleman, this does not apply to you. But the boors won't change until enough good men stand up and tell them it's not acceptable. Actor Patrick Stewart is such a man -- and he gives me hope for the whole gender.

Answer 6

well, I hope you're not going to base your thoughts about lesbians because of just a couple of "bad" experiences.
I, for one....and actually, no lesbian that I know....dislike or even hate men. I have lots of male friends....I'm simply not attracted to men, only to women.
no, of course not every straight guy is the enemy. but, do you know any other lesbians? maybe you might want to get to know a few more of us.....because the majority are nothing like the couple you described.

Answer 7

"Butch" lesbians are sometimes like that, they almost feel as equal to a man. I understand wy she felt direspected; would you ave opened the door for a guy? Understand where she's coming from. Honestly I think because the male is known as the dominate part of society it offends some women, even digust them probably; when it comes to lesbians men are almost non-existent.

Answer 8

I think the same goes with straight people who are homophobic.

Some people are insecure about themselves and their sexuality resulting from their upbringing and experience. This insecurity makes them so uptight and result it socially-unpleasant defence mechanism. Some of my lesbian/gay friends are like that. But there are a lot of gay/lesbians that I know (in Jakarta, Indonesia) are so secure about themselves and even like to laugh at themselves and their sexuality.

Answer 9

I have no idea.....my girlfriend thinks all men are, in her words, VILE. But that's just how some lesbians are I guess. I'm not lesbian, I do love men.

Answer 10

They are being indoctrinated by the leaders of their "movement" to disrespect normal people to the point where we begin to feel that normalcy is wrong and we quiver with fear to question it as immoral and unnatural. Another example of this is Queer Eye for the Straight Guy. The basic premise is that straight, normal guys are below average, thus not as good as gays, when it comes to fashion. Just keep doing what you are doing and don't let it get to you.

Answer 11

I've known lesbians like that --who hate men---maybe with good reason...but they are definitely not all like that.