very depressed HELP?

Question

today i just found out i lost one of my twins. i have only one know. im really depressed of it. any one who lost a baby and feels or feelt depressed and how did you get over it. please i really need to know. because i cant stop crying. i want to just fall down and die, thats how i feel. i know i have one twin alive but i really wanted them both. but its part of life. anyone know how to get over this depressen. thank you all very much.

Answer 1

You can grieve for a while and also try to talk it over with some one and get their advise on the situation but i am so sorry for your loss take care though

Answer 2

Hi England Gal,
First of all, I am very sorry for your loss....
I think the most "important" thing is, to surround yourself with friends and family for support.... These are the people that will get you through the toughest part of the loss....
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If you don't have "many" friends or family near by, a support group in your area would be a good start... You may also want to consider seeing a therapist to deal properly with the depression you will be feeling....
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Over the course of the years, I feel the best way to cope with the loss is to : "honor" the person... You may consider something as simple as dedicating a tree with a plaque to your child, or if you have the resources, you could start a group or organization, to help others with the same loss you have, to help them cope....
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The most important thing is : "to remember".. all the good the child brought to the world, and the happiness he/she brought to you....................
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I didn't loose a child, because I am not capable of have any at all....
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But, I am speaking with my experience to help others....
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Girl, I wish you all the strength and luck you need..to cope with this.....

You have my support.... !
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All the best!

My regards! .... x

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear this :-( I was suppose to be a twin.. My mom lost my sister.. She said she was so depressed and she was only 20... So she wasnt able to cope with it as well as others, plus she has my brother who was 1 and a half at the time. I asked her this question.. She said the only thing she could do.. Look @ the positive.. And that was me. If she was to stress out to much about the loss of my sister.. she was risking the chance to losing me too and she wouldn't be able to live with that if she did. She said look to the people who you care most about. Think positive for you and your baby.

Good luck

Answer 4

i am very sorry. I feel pain for you as you are having pain. I am 35 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. Last night, i found out from the website about microcephaly and the doctor said weeks ago that her head circumference is 2 weeks behind normal. i was so worried and cried. Even that isn't losing a baby yet. i know how you feel. I know it's so hard. sometimes, i think about the feeling of losing a baby. You have carried and been through 8-9 months and all of the sudden, you lose him/her, it's so hard to deal with and it's painful. I can understand how hard it is for you to feel. Like everyone said, losing one is better than losing both. Pray to lord and pray for the both babies, the one died-may he/she be resting in the heaven and the one alive-may he/she be healthy and happy.
I will also pray for your both babies as well.

Answer 5

I am so sorry to hear ...but in time it will get better ...I didnt lose a twin but I lost a son ..he was 2 months old I know it seems terrible right now but you will get through this ...I didnt even want to live but I had to pull through for my 1 year old son at the time..it is very hard ...I had people come to me and say .."I know how you feel" but they really didnt know ..they never lost a child ..that is the worst pain anyone can have..but I can tell you this ..your baby is with Jesus and is very happy ...there is a verse in the bible that I love and held on to ...david lost his son and weeped for days then he finally got up and said...my son cant come back to me but I can go to him ...so that is what I look for is to see my son when jesus comes back ...my son that passed was my sec child ..I am soon to give birth to my sixth ....but know he/she is with jesus and you can see he /she again and time will heal the pain

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Answer 6

I am sorry about your lost. The only thing I can tell you is find a really good friend and poor your heart out to her/him until you can't cry no more.and just remember your feeling will also affected this baby too so just let it out and take care of yourself as good as you can mentally and physically for your reminding baby. Good luck and may God help you thought this.

Answer 7

Oh Honey....I am sooooo sorry. Losing a baby is so hard to deal with. you need to cry and get it out, but then you need to pick yourself up and be strong for your surviving baby. Make sure you allow yourself whatever grieving proccesses you need, if you need to name and have a funeral for your lost one, do it, don't let anyone tell you different. Make sure you eat right and get the right rest. Please hold tight to the fact that you have one still living, and love it twice as hard. You can get through this.

Answer 8

I went through the same thing. I had to look at it like I was lucky enough not to lose both. Somewhere its a blessing in disguise you were not meant to have twins and everything happens for a reason. good luck with the rest of your pregnancy. If you want to talk you can email me at [e-mail].

Answer 9

My mom lost my brothers twin.She also lost my baby sister at 6 weeks old from SIDS.She told me the only thing that heals the hurt is time. It gets a little easier each day. You never forget You just learn to cope ...Hope this helps. Huggs to you .You are in our prayers.

Answer 10

sorry to hear about your loss. as with any loss, it is very depressing and hard to accept. try to focus on the fact that you are still very lucky to have one more. there really isnt that much you can do to get rid of the pain, it's normal to have the feelings you are having. try talking to someone who can comfort you. whatever you do, you should make sure that you are taking care of yourself for this other bby's sake. you shouldn't really stress because the harm you can cause to the unborn child. i wish you all the luck with your baby...take care and be safe, for your child!