is she a friend?

Question

she is getting married soon, and she lives with her fiance.
i am in a long distance relationship with a guy. i wished her all the best with her wedding, but she said that the long distance relationship i am in with my boyfriend is not going to last. we don't plan to get married soon. however i have been with this guy for 3 years and she has been with this guy for 1 1/2 years.
how would you feel after what she wished you , and what would you say to her after that?

she is aware of the things she says. she is the type of person who would intentionally put you down cuz she wants to feel good about herself.

Answer 1

Yes, because she felt secure enough in your friendship to state her honest opinion and it is likely she wants better for you; however, it is not her life, it is yours.

Take some time to cool off from the remark but discuss it with her the next time you see her and let her know that it hurt you when she said it. Perhaps you feel that she is rushing into marriage after being with the fellow only a year and a half, but you held your tongue because you knew it would hurt it and it was her decision to make. Tell her she is your friend, you intend to be supportive of that decision and expect the same consideration from her in the future.

Answer 2

As a general rule, long-distance relationships are difficult to maintain. That you've been in yours for three years suggests you might have something that works—but it also suggests something might be fatally flawed. If you've been dating someone for three years and no marriage is likely, I'd think that you two are unwilling to make the sacrifices necessary to cement your relationship. I don't know whether fear of marriage, insufficient affection for the other, or external circumstances are the problem. So, if I weren't your friend, I'd suggest that things were headed downhill.

But I don't know you, and I don't know how your relationship is going. Your friend does. Maybe she knows your relationship is strong. Maybe she knows it's weak. When she said this, was she trying to hurt you? Was she trying to help you? She may wish that you could be happier, and want you to get out of a broken relationship. Or, she could be being mean.

Once you know why she said what she said, you can decide to follow her advice, reconcile, or stop being friends.

Answer 3

first of all she is a friend she's just saying that since it is a long distance relationship that u might end up getting hurt so she don't want u to get your hopes up to high and end up with a broken spirit. but she is wrong for wishing that she wasn't trying to hurt she was just trying to keep u from getting hurt. but with her relationship she's been dating some for 1 1/2 and is already getting married so she don't kno what will happen and if ur boyfriend is true he'll put that rock on ya finger soon so just don't worry about it.

Answer 4

well honestly only people who are truly around you would be able to answer this question. But, i say is he is treating you the way you feel you should be treated and you guys love each other then stick with it. But she might be telling how she see's the relationship going because you guys are friends and sometimes the truth hurts. but if your not questioning the relationship and its what you want it to be then stick with it and be happy. but you should ask her what made her say the things she said and ask her how she feels about your relationship and why. it could just be that the average person doesn't believe long distance relationships work and she is going with the flow. I hope this helped you some.

Answer 5

I would say,

You know what? I am very happy for you and Bob*, I give you my best wishes, but even though me and Rob* are long distance doesnt mean we wont last. We have been together for 3 years. Now you may be getting married after one 1/2 years but what does that prove? That you get married before I do. That doesnt mean anything.


Again though, I am very haappy for you, but our relationship will last as long as I am willing to take it.







*bob and rob are quick-names I came up with

Answer 6

She just made an insensitive comment - we all make them from time to time.