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Iam a shy & quiet girl but i do like conversations but the problem is i dont make eye contact that much. i cant stare at there eyes & happen to move around, do something, or look down(I do listen to their conversations). But just cant i try to but i cant. How can i make more eyecontact and not seem like im not listening?
2007-03-08 14:12:51 · 11 answers · asked by Thrills 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I have the same problem. You have to force yourself to make eye contact, even if you do start to feel embarrassed.
2007-03-08 14:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by angel_wings 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound silly.
I was very, very shy until i was 15.
I practiced talking to myself in front of the mirror, made eye contact with myself, asked myself questions, talked to myself and practiced listening.
Practice listening to other people without thinking of what you are going to say next, then eye contact is a lot easier.
Eye contact is important, it is a sign of good self esteem.
Like anything, it takes practice.
Talk to yourself in the mirror, talk to the tv, talk to your teddy bear. Practice with your MOM!!
*ask your Mom to show you her year book, and tell you what it was like to be your age, ask her how she dressed, and have her get out an old photo album. Ask her if she was popular.
You will learn a lot by listening, and practice listening and making eye contact.
Practice Eye Contact at school, when the teacher is lecturing, watch the teacher, look at the teacher's hair, or forehead, or nose. or mouth.
2007-03-08 22:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at their THIRD EYE. This is the area between the eyes. To the person it seems you are looking into their eyes when in fact you are not. I've heard that looking away from the person you're making a statement to (avoiding eye contact) gives the impression you are lying, so you want to look in their direction. This is so true at interviews.
2007-03-08 22:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sheris_Sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try looking at the space between thier eyes (on the bridge of thier nose) it looks like you are looking in thier eyes, but you dont really have to. And its ok to look around every once in a while.. you dont have to stare into thier eyes the whole time, just half the time.
2007-03-08 22:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys find shy and retiring girls very alluring. I think I like you already. If it's important to you, concentrate of looking into they eyes of people you know, say parents, siblings, girl friends and strangers. With practise it will seem normal to look into the eyes. But don't lose the cute shyness or I might break up with you.
2007-03-08 22:28:03 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stare at their lips. If they catch you at it, explain with a white-lie that you can't hear them so well and are trying to read their lips. And while you are looking at their lips, try learning to read lips. Nice skill to have across a noisy crowded room
Eventually, you'll want to see their eyes because they are the path to their soul, or what ever they call it. That's why all the people wear sunglasses at a poker table.
2007-03-08 22:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like me. im quiet & very shy & i definitely cannot make eye contact. are you self-conscious about anything? that may be why you wont look at them. i used to be really self-conscious about my looks so i couldnt look a person straight in the face. it was uncomfortable for me. i finally just forced myself to look at them b/c they started thinking i wasnt interested in what they were saying. plus sometimes i was in that situation where i absolutely had to look someone in the eye & it made me realize that it doesnt matter if i dont want to...lol. just force yourself. if your goal is to look somebody in the eye w/o not paying attention then make sure you reach it.
2007-03-08 22:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice in the mirror. If you just cant do it focus on the inner corner of their eye right above their nose and tilt your head slightly to the right. This indicates that you are actively listening and are sincere.
2007-03-08 22:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by dropkickchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont make eye contact wit my boy friend and i dont know why but he has beautiful eyes so i have to look at them but when we start talkin i dont make eyecontact iz cuz i think im ugly and every 1 says im not soo just try to daz wat i do
2007-03-08 22:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by jessie373638 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try looking at the top of their forehead, or nose, they will think you are looking at them
2007-03-08 22:18:22 · answer #10 · answered by All Natural Honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋