I take care of my 14 month old nephew 2 - 3 days per week. How do I deal with temper tantrums?

Question

Every time I leave his sight, going to the door, or into the kitchen or bathroom he flips out, stamping his feet and screaming, not just crying. Otherwise he's quite happy. We are very effectionate and have lots of time together. I don't encourage this behaviour at all, but want to get him through this. His parents say he's not like this at home, but they live in a house that is completely open floor plan and he can see them wherever he is on the main floor. How can I handle this to teach him I'm not leaving him anywhere, just moving about my house?

Answer 1

put her in a timeout intill she is over it it.
or find somesthing she does not like. Example: the dark, you would put her in the dark for a long time.

Answer 2

Always check a baby out to make sure nothing physically negative is happening!

For Tantrums, screaming, yelling, NEVER Respond! If you respond then you are rewarding that type of behavior and you will keep getting it!

Babies holler/yell a given length of time. It is the amount of time it took to get your response the last time! They will always yell that length of time plus a bit more. If you respond, then that is how long the will yell the next time pus a bit more!

You are the adult, tighten up your ears, pull up a chair and just look at it! Don't touch, offer no words, nothing! They will yell louder to show you that you will respond.

As they yell louder, move further away! So long as you are sure that nothing dangerous is happening, do not give in! You are going through programmed response!

The yelling will not hurt the baby, might make the lungs stronger but not hurt! Nature gave the child nothing that it can use to hurt its self!

When you do not respond to yelling, but a few minutes after it stops yelling you pick it up and hold it, the lesson will get learned!

Never give child things to get a certain behavior. Never respond to the behavior type that you do not want! If you do, your rewarded it, that is what you will get both in and out the house!

Train/teach your child the behavior that you want. The baby KNOWS what it is doing and by your actions, it learns how to push your buttons! We do the same with animals; reward them for the behavior that we want!

The issue today is that too many people with children did not get the lessons that we older folk learned the hard way from grandma! And she was not about to put up with a lot of hollering and screaming!

Answer 3

Sit down in a safe and familiar environment and explain to him that when he can't see you, you'll still be there. All he has to do is call for you. Just like a game of Marco Polo or hide and seek. I suggest playing those games. Your nephew is missing a very important developmental milestone that happens normally during infancy. Playing games like peek-a-boo can encourage a child to develop such a realization that objects are still there, even when they're not in sight. Or, if you suspect that he is only doing this for attention, let him cry it out. Eventually, he will come and find you. Try going where he can't see you but you can see him. If you play the suggested games, and he won't find you, try using an object he really likes first. Hide it completely out of sight and then play hot and cold. Reward him with a tangable item, such as a new toy or a happy meal when he finds it. After several successful sessions with the favorite item, try hiding yourself in plain sight like under a sheet. Finally, after he has adjusted to this, try hiding in another room.
Of course, this could always just be an early case of the terrible twos or your nephew could just be wanting attention and only knows how to get negative attention. Counter act this behavior with positive reinforcement. If you suspect it is a cry for attention and the first suggestions don't work, don't punish or repremand him. Ignore the temper tantrum and go about your daily tasks but make sure to reward him exta well when he does something good.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Please check the following web site:
http://www.zerotothree.org/site/PageServer

This is a very reliable site, that m and my co-workers use @ work for references, we administrate a program of 0-3 children.

My own experience with tantrums:
My son was around 16 mos. Every time I put him on the car seat to go to his childcare provider, then to work, he started to cry with no end...I used to give him toys, his bottle, a book, etc, and nothing helped, until one day I dis what a child development specialist recommended me: When he started to cry, I just sit in front of him and observe him, with not much of emotions. He was surprised that I didn't start looking for stuff to calm him, then he stopped, next day the same, but this time he didn't cry much, on the third day; no more tantrums...My dear, I've been using that technique, even now that he is 10 years old!!! and still works. Children are so smart, and learn how to manipulate very early. I'm sure you will be able to manage it, and enjoy him, they grow so fast!!!

Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

First don't give in when he throws his fits. Second try and talk to him when you leave the room tell him where your going and maybe talk to him as your going out of the room so he knows your still there just out of sight . Another way is play the game where you hide the toy under the blanket and while doing so try and explained to him he may not see it but it still there and explain he may not see you but your still there.Hope this help and didn't confuse you.

Answer 7

My son had the same problem for a while. Try letting him know when you leave the room. "Henry, I have to put this away in the next room, I'll be right back," leave for 30 sec and come back. That wasn't too long. It will take a few tries, for a few days. But soon he will get over it.

Answer 8

There's a couple of things you can try.
Always make a point of telling him when you really are going to leave, that way he knows you wont "sneak out" any time he isn't looking. That should ease some of his anxiety.
Besides that, you should just completely ignore it. (Unless of course he's going to hurt himself.) I know it can be annoying. I have a two year old myself.
I wouldn't worry too much about it though. I think almost every kid goes through it. Good Luck!

Answer 9

I have a cousin like that you aren't alone!
He might do it for attention if he does explain to him that by screaming he won't get his way and take something he likes playing with for the time being if he is truly scared you are leaving him before you leave asure him you would never leave him you love him and ask if he wants to come!
Best of luck

Answer 10

I think a child has a temper tantrum as long as he has an audience. When he starts his tantrum, I'd leave the room, if you can't do that, pick him up and put him in a room, not saying a word. Leave him there until it stops.

Answer 11

you have to be very patient. Babys get bored..just like everyone else. If he's not hungry or needs changing..he just needs someone to give me attention. Buy him some toys or something. The one thing you have to be is patient. Get some ear plugs if he is too loud. Just remember that whatever you do now, will affect him when he is older. If you want him to grow up to be a decent person...love him with all you got!!!