My ex wife and I had a horrible divorce.In the process of us trying to work things out she started dating other guys without me knowing.I was crushed.We had not spoke for a week until today.She first called me trying to be friendly.She lied and used me for so long so I could not talk to her.She then texted me that my ex nephews were at her moms and that she would never keep me from them.She said she hopes one that I will see what happened to us.She left,not me.I tried everything in my power to get her back.I still love her,but I will not go threw what I did again.Why will she not just leave me alone.I cant get over her unless she quits doing this.Could it be possible she still has feelings for me.What do I do?
2007-03-08 13:41:15 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She has feelings but they are not for you, they are for herself. This sounds like a morbid case of her needs being met at your expense. You already know how willingly she is able to lure you in then stomp on your heart when you are least expecting it.
Remember this one thing...
"The one who cares the most, is the most vulnerable"
Whether it is true or not, you must never let her think that you care more than she does. Another of my favorite remedies is this...
"If she cant take away your joy, she hasn't won"
Smile, it will get you through a lot of lives problems.
2007-03-08 13:56:35 · answer #1 · answered by terterryterter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow usually its always the other way around. If she used you, left and is still messing with you she's confused. I'm sure She still wants you just not now and her acting this way is a way of her keeping you on the leash. Hate to break it to you but no don't go back. Believe me it will hurt you so bad....Tell her that what you guys had is now in the past and that you gave it all you had to get her back and if she made a misake of not getting back with you its her loss and your heart isn't a toy for her to pick up when she's bored of her other guys... DONT DO IT!!
2007-03-08 21:48:08 · answer #2 · answered by Daniela S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to face what's going on first in order to be able to let go. She's making sure that once she's finishing being a W---- with whoever she feels, and having a great time with it that you will be there to provide her a great life without any demands. Are you really that naive? Do what you need to do for your happiness, and think about how inconsiderate she's been regarding your needs and feelings in order to get over your love for her. There's some female looking for a good guy who'll treat you like you want to be in time.
2007-03-08 21:50:12 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure that she still has feelings. However she moved on and broke a vow that she took. She is messing with your mind and will as long as you let her. You are better than that and you need to tell her that it is over. She left you and you will always have some kind of feelings for her and her for you. Don't let her walk on you now that you are divorced. Stand up to her tell her that things are over and mean it.
I wish you luck.
2007-03-08 21:57:35 · answer #4 · answered by baby_thumper_girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be worth just being strong and telling her that she hurt you so much that you just cannot trust her or speak to her right now. You should tell her that you don't want to have any contact with her because you are grieving over the loss of the one you once loved. If in the future you feel you can cope then by all means contact her again and see how it goes. If you are unhappy with her contacting you just tell her to stop and just don't respond if she doesn't listen to you.
2007-03-08 21:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could have feelings for you or she could be leading you on. Hard to say. That's the problem with people who lie. You never truly know who they are.
Since you've tried everything in your power to get her back and she didn't come back, try to let go. Ask her to stop calling you. Perhaps that way you can get on with your life. Good luck.
2007-03-08 21:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants you because your not running after her but as soon as she thinks you will take her back that's when she will turn and run .You see it's a game to her right now she doesn't want you but she will make dam sure no one else gets you.do you under stand now where she is coming from.Sounds like you married a back stabbing b i t c h sorry but that is how I see it. You sound like a nice man who deserves better then what he got.Not all of us women are like your ex .
GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-08 22:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she realized what she threw away. Maybe she realized that there are slim pickings out there. Maybe she just got dumped. Or maybe she wants to make herself feel better for her crappy behavior by being nice to you now. Whatever the reason I would suggest you change your phone numbers. You are better off without her. Good Luck. It's nice to know that there is nice guys out there.
2007-03-08 21:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bookworm4124 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like shes minipulating you. Either she has feelings for or shes just playing you. I think you should sit her down and make her commit to a decision, stay or go. If its stay, get some outside help to work out the issues. If its go, get on with your life and dont give her another chance to play with your emotions. Good luck!
2007-03-08 21:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by aliqu2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like she has a lot of issues to work out.by herself.also it sounds to me like you have let her do the walking.quit being her door mat.and if you want to be left alone .dont answer her calls.dont even talk to her.she may come around if she sees she might lose you.but continue to be at her beck and call.she will continue to use you and knows you will be there.good luck and i hope you can move on.
2007-03-08 21:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by dee h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋