Should a couple live together first before they get married or get married first then live together.
2007-03-08 13:39:27 · 23 answers · asked by chad R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they should live together first.
2007-03-08 13:41:47 · answer #1 · answered by Riddles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's up to individual couples. For what it's worth, I married before I lived with my wife. We have been together happy for 28 years. It is interesting to note recent studies that say more and more people are living together, more are not marrying but of those that marry over 50% end in divorce. It seems that living together first does not guarantee a successful marriage. Wouldn't it be intersting to know how many live together couples eventually separate.
2007-03-08 21:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that two people have to get to know each other completely before committing to marriage. Dating does not let you learn everything about each other or even if you would be able to live together. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you could live together. I think marriage is very sacred and should be entered into only when you truly know each other, that way you can have a better chance of not getting a divorce and keeping your family together. You know the saying that you never really know someone until you live with them. When people live together before they get married, it gives both parties the chance to see if the relationship is going to make it or not. I lived with my husband for 5 yrs before we got married. We are very happy and still in love. But, a friend of mine was dating her husband for 9 yrs and didn't move in together until after they got married. They are so miserable. They both say it is not what they thought it would be and all they do is complain about each other. Get to know each other by doing a trial run of the marriage before you get married. Divorce can be very expensive!
2007-03-08 21:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jodie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe they should live together for awhile before marrying just to see if they are going to be able to live with each other after they learn each others bad habits. Seeing someone all the time every day is way different then dating and only seeing each other when your both on your best behavior.
2007-03-08 21:48:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. Are you planning on marrying the person? If you don't know, best not move in together until you know the answer. It can lead to serious confusion. If you are with "the one", it can't hurt to live together and save some money.
2007-03-08 21:44:14 · answer #5 · answered by t4tdog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce is higher for couple who live together before getting married.
2007-03-08 21:43:12 · answer #6 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you the way we did it,my husband and I that is.
We had the date set to get married before we bought our first house.We lived together 6 months before we were married and looking back I wouldn't change a thing.Now if you were to ask my husband the same question i don't no want he would say.
2007-03-08 21:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
live together for a year or so living with someone is a big you find out alot a person Make sure you can live together before you get married
2007-03-08 21:42:35 · answer #8 · answered by jenny b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a personal decision based on the circumstances of the people involved.
Personally, I got married and then we moved in together. It was right for us.
2007-03-08 21:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is kinda funny and only shows us old timers how old fashioned we really are. it use to be that you didn't live together or even screw before you were married. I have 2 conflicting opinions on the matter and if you don't believe in the bible, then why bother to get married at all? when you screw before you are married, you get hooked on the sex and all the emotions that go with it, you are less willing to perceive a fault in the other person when you might lose your sex partner. once married, you will discover that sex wasn't as evil as you thought and you can have it with someone else and still live. so you are inclined to want to take that azz for a test drive on someone else. you sense the power it truly has.
now you ask , then why does it matter if you wait to get married to have sex, mainly because it fogs your judgement. you become as one, and then you split and then you become as one with someone else, and then you become as one with someone else, pretty soon, you don't have anything to give of yourself
you may not even believe in the bible, but there is still lots of wisdom in there and you would be wise to use some of it. the other conflicting opinion is what if you wait to get married to have sex only to find out your partner has a tiny weenee or stinks at sex. too late. only thing you can do is pray god takes him out of this world for ya, it's till death do us part. marriage is mandated by god and if you break gods rules, you distance yourself from him by your own thoughts. god doesn't approve of me, I'm not worthy of gods love kinds of thoughts.
lastly, you are punished by your sins and not for them, jesus died so that all can be forgiven of their sins before going to heaven. that doesn't mean you won't get to live in the consequences of said sins. I know with the enlightenment of the modern thinker, it all sounds silly but there seems to be a lot of people suffering from their sins and asking why me, what did I ever do. probably not the answer you were hoping to get, just a little of life's wisdom.
2007-03-08 22:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, I think it's fine for a couple to live together first. Particularly if they are "older" - more mature, not just out of school.
2007-03-08 21:42:36 · answer #11 · answered by fdm215 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋